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writes:My bf and I just broke up. We broke up because he said i wasnt his because i had had sex with guys before him. No matter how I tried to explain it he wouldnt understand. He said the only way to make me his was to have sex with me every day, and he got mad when i didnt want to. So we broke up. I got the feeling that he was only interested in sex, but he just doesnt seem like the type. I love him, and I miss him. We are still friends. We see eachother. I still kiss him(stupid I know). I txt him still. We are officially broken up so we can date anyone we want. But I know id feel guilty if i was with any other guy, esp if im still friends with him. But I dont want to stop being friends. Why would I feel guilty? How do I get over it? And is it normal? Or maybe should I just try to get with my x even though he still wont admit IM his.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (11 December 2010):
Mjfbla is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, Im going to try really hard to follow all of your advice. I cant explain why its so hard for me. When i was raped i kinda lost something, and things seemed to b so much better since he was with me. But I havent talked to him today, which is a big task for me! ha..I hope I can distract myself long enough to heal enough to be able to walk away. Thanks guys :)
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reader, JENNIFER love +, writes (10 December 2010):
Look its simple both sexes always want what they can't have. Like if a girl can't have a guy we want him even bad & if a guy can't have a girl he wants her bad & don't blind your self because us girls will do that or make excuses or lie to our selfs wen we know what's up. Keep in mind even if it hurts u, guys don't really care as much as girls. Look if someone loves you it doesn't matter if u had Sex even w/half of the world he will be w/u. I know u miss him n feel lonely at times n care 4 him but does he want you NO!!! Don't be a dumb girl talk to other guys he don't want u cuz if he did he will turn u into his girl he doesnt care if u date other guys that's not cool so test his ego to see. What if u talk to other guys either way he would think ur a slut cuz he don't respect u & let him think what ever he wants because he is going to think what he wants. What did he think n considered u or feels guilty for leaving u NO!!! cuz if he did he would be w/who?, you so don't feel guilty its not ur fault u can't take time back or the past!! So smell the roses hello! Be a strong girl say I deserve better he don't care he aint w/me. Say to ur self I can't care or love someone that doesn't feel the same way if he did ill be his girl. If he says I still have feelings don't buy it either he is your boyfriend or he is going to have u on the side as one of his hoes or wanna be hoes. Guys always like hard girls or girls they can't have not the easy ones & have dinity for your self so if u love ur self cuz if u don't love ur self no one will first ask an older person they will tell u so stop kissing him let him kiss u & if he doesnt then u don't need him even if u want him. If you text him or bug him, you are not letting him breath just making him not take u serious just helping him with his self esteem to go up so he can think yea I got this girl I don't have to be with her, ill always have her,she will be one of sides. Sometimes guys put excuses cuz they want to be single. Don't waste ur beauty n youth in a selfish guy that don't deserve u unless he realize that u are worth it but that's if he wants to, its up to him if not he won't they are smart in their own benefit. Don't think you know him and his feelings the way he feels n know every side to him good,bad etc... Cuz you don't u might think so but no its approven fact. I fall in love with a guy,when out w/him for 4yrs. I thought I knew him & felt bad 4 anything he feels bad like u its stupid he didn't give. give your love when its wanted n not wen he is ur lover tho cuz ur going to feel used after words n lonely don't hurt ur self love ur self. Us girls wen we feel lonely first thing ur going to think is ur emotions so get ur self entertain or around people so u won't be depressed, sad,or think too much, keep your self busy that's one way u can get over it & stay strong.
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reader, confusoholic  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 I think you should never contact him again..he seems to have serious issues...whatever they maybe...this guy just spells 'MISERY' for you...
Move on, forget about him...its tough; i know, but you gotta watch out for yourself. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): That feeling you think is 'guilt' about being with other guys is not that at all. Your gut feels guilty that you were used so badly by this guy.
Sorry but he played you like a fool.
Next time someone tells the only way to be his is to (insert anything you like here) tell them to go fuck themselves. We gladly give ourselves to people we really like. We don't set conditions.
Yeah maybe you should go back to your ex and let him screw you then leave you again, sound like a great plan. Or you could be smart about this and stop getting used by him.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 "I got the feeling that he was only interested in sex, but he just doesnt seem like the type."
Trust me, he is the type. When has "having sex everyday" been the solution to ANY problem besides trying to conceive...
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