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writes: I volunteer to a lot of charities and tend to give up my time for them. But when I want to be with my boyfriend and he wants to be with me, I'm there. Thing is he says he loves me but we've broken up twice and gotten back together only once. Now he told me that he still loves me. We are in a very difficult position so it's hard for us to see each other, and when we do we just seem to have good times. He just keeps talking about these girls who tell him that they love him. I don't mind if he has female friends - as I have a lot of male friends - it's just the way he talks about them. A lot of the time he changes his mind about things but I stick by him and try to help him through it,(by pretty much leaving him alone when asked and being there when he wants) but sometimes he doesn't tell me but he tells complete strangers and I understand this completely through a psychological point of view. I don't know, maybe I'm going crazy but I kind of feel like he's not completely with me and we're playing the game by his rules. Am I wrong in thinking that he doesn't love me as much as he says? Reply to this Question
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reader, beenthere +, writes (6 November 2005):
he;s controlling you, expecting you to comply with what he wants without giving you a say. but you are allowing him to do this. say no once in a while. tell him when you want time together. make him aware that this is the 21st century and not, as many men including my own partner believe, a world where the women are controlled by men and expected to do as they're told
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2005): I dont think your crazy, you sound like a loving caring person who sometimes forgets to look after herself.No relationship should be controlled by one person he should be there for you when you need him too, and he should never tell you other girls love him, although i think he does that because you have male friends and instead of telling you this makes him insicure he tries to make you jealous. Tell him what you want from this relationship and ask him what he wants. If you dont see a future together then leave him because you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy dont settle for second best. Lyndsey
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reader, babyjessieb +, writes (3 November 2005):
No, your not at all wrong. Obviously hes the dominant one in the relationship. Although this is very common does not mean its right. There should not be a dominant person in your relationship. Love is about comprimise, that means he is supposed to meet you halfway. 50 for him and 50 for you.
Hes got it all wrong. Both of you should make decisions together. You should get to see him when you both want to, you should get to leave when your both ready. I'm not sure if he loves u as much as he says, from the way u make it sound...no, but thats for u to decide. Good luck!
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