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anonymous
writes: I was corresponding with a guy online, we are around the same age which was good. When I read his profile he said that he was a widower and was left to raise his son by himself. He mentioned also that he is a very shy person but adapts well to others if the communication is right. He talked about his son quite a bit and was pretty much looking for a trustworthy relationship and he said it would be worthwhile for us to be in contact always as friends. We had sent a few messages to each other and he wanted to know a few things about me and asked if I wanted to know anything about him. He had given me his cell number and told me to text him so I did, and he greeted me and proceeded to ask how old I was and what I did for a living but asked in kind a an abrupt manner. My age was in my profile and I told him that I was retired. I asked him why he wanted to know and he didn't answer me back. So the next day I went online and found that the site was women looking for sugar daddies and there were some people on there that were looking for casual dating and some looking for real relationships. His profile said Beneficiary (I want to be spoiled) and Long Term relationship. Someone had said to be careful of guys with sob stories like his being a widower. I wanted to believe his story was true but he was dodging my questions which were not even intrusive. I asked how long he had been in the city and if he was okay with starting as friends. He never answered me. So just recently when I went on the site again I jumped to conclusions and sent him a message telling him how disgusting it was to use a sob story or lie about being a widower. I am a person who tries to give theother the benefit of the doubt but things with this guy were not making any sense. When I got back on in the evening there were three messages that said, Thismessage has been removed as spam. All the messages that we sent to each other were gone but his profile is still there and his photos. I don't know what to think now. I tried to just be nice and I am well aware that dating sites or notorious for fake profilesand creeps, but for once this guy was closer than all the guys I have spoken to so I am a little down about it. I was looking forward to chatting more with him and was tired of all the guys being so far away. Any suggestions about how I can forget this guy? I have about 2 more months before my membership runs out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs for an update, the site is mostly wealthy men seeking a
companion (sugar daddies) I have had older men viewing my
profile but this guy was around my age and his messages got
removed so I have to look elsewhere. I am just disappointed
that another turned out to be a jerk. Some of the others are
just looking for a casual fling and only a few want friendship
and a real relationship. I still have some pen pals from the
other dating site. We text each other regularly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013):
I'm sorry sweetie, I'm a triffle confused ( that isn't hard as I have the flu) was the sure your a member of.. A site for younger women looking for older men? ? As that's where you met ..
As if this is the case then I don't understand your dilemma .. A site that's for younger women seeking older men Is not the right site for you .. Dating online is like market strategy .. You have to target the right audience .. And certainly he wasn't 'one' of them .. Get of this site if this is what it used for unless you want to go out with a 70 year old .. And look for relationships nearer to home ..
Hope this helps .. X
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): Cut your losses, consider yourself lucky, and jump back in.
Use the remainder of your membership to find friends - people you can talk to, get to know the opposite sex, and relate about life in general.
Hopefully better prospects will come along.
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