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writes:i need some advice people!! please help!! a guy recently made a comment to me at work saying he couldnt get a girlriend coz of the wierd shifts, I didnt think anything of it....until i mentioned it in passing conversation to a friend, thats when she said that it sounded like he was chatting me up. this guy and i always had something to talk about before this happened, anyway a few days later i saw him and he was really...whats the word?....sheepish?? and made his excuses to leave. my friend said to me that ive given him the brush off now as i didnt "bite" (i havent seen him since!) could this really be a chat up line or is a statement? and how do i approach this guy without coming on too strong, im usually outgoing and a happy-go-lucky kinda girl (i havent had a relationship in years and have gained a lot of weight recently, i dont think im anything special) but when it comes to this sort of thing im bound to say something stupid and make myself look like an idiot! thanks in advance!
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (26 March 2007):
 My Advice? Leave the friends and third parties out of it!. You WON`T look silly, I promise you. He`s Shy, You`re Shy; when you go up to him at work, with a passing comment (weather/polatics/working conditions), you know you have no need to be shy; just starting a conversation, and when he comes back with his comments; then you will have "broken the Ice". When Natural Conversation flows between the both of you, you can take it from there!! Good Luck to you both, With Love, Heather.
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reader, saddad +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Just talk to him. Casually; a nice smile and a hello everyday or a "how are you today" and he will soon get the message that you are interested. He seems like a shy type of guy, if he is then coming on too strong may make him run a mile so keep it nice and friendly for a few weeks.If he still doesnt get the message then start talking to him about his shifts - ask him when he is free and if he'd like to go for a drink/coffee/movie/whatever.Good luck!
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