A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HiI have been married for 7 years adn will do anything for my wife but....A couple of weeks ago i had a strange feeling something was up with the wifeI out of curiosity checked her email and social network siteLo and behold there were conversations of sexual natureI have since confronted my wife who one evening I think realised her mistake and broke ties with this other person she met just after we got married through a chat siteThis guy says to her that he loves a woman but she is married, my wife questioned who it was and he said "it's you"I think i am lucky that I caught it before anything physical happenedI am hurt, heartbroken not sure i can trust heri have never been in situation beforeMy wife says she is physically attracted to this guyi aksed if she was attracted to me - not that muchI realise there can be marriages based on the inner attraction of a person, I will admit my wife has changed the way i look etc etcShe said that she would have never slept with him - all she wanted to do was meet him once - but i think maybe once should never beQuestion is how do i reconsole my marriageShe says she is confused in a brain but 70% sure she wants our marriage to work and that all she was doing was a fantasyP.S. There are questions that will prob keep coming up as I think about it and not knowing how long this will takePLEASE HELP!!!!!!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (4 June 2009):
 omg!what a horrible person!she shouldn't even want to meet up with him once at all!!she's with you no-one else!she should love you for you!!not tell you she's physically attracted to another guy whom has told her he loves her!that's so rudely unfair on you!!i don't think you can console your marriage to be honest she's clearly chosen the path she wants to go down and that's when she said she is physically attracted to someone else and continued to talk to him.you deserve so much better.hope this helps.
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (4 June 2009):
 Well we all get curious, some of us keep it to our minds some act on it and cheat! If she doesnt find you attractive anymore then you need to ask why this is? and how you can change it! If she is saying she wants to work on your marriage then thats a great start! Maybe she is lacking attention from you? so is looking else were i.e internet! It could be lack of sex with your wife....ask her what she needs and why she felt the need to talk to this other man and not you in a sexual nature!
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