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writes:OK me and my GF are very close and she swears she gave me her virginity now I know I was her 1st bf in history and 1st kiss.etc anyways I'm worried (cus I get that way cus I'm insecure) that maybe she's lying and the reason why is this the day she and me got nude I fingered her with 1 finger she was wet and liked it saying it felt good and it was tight. Then day 2 I used two fingers (very tight) and went fast and suddenly she looked like she was in alot of pain and she ran to the bathroom and came out in alot of pain saying she was bleeding she kinda was crying I think anyways she went home and told me she was bleeding alot and then after that when ever I tried to penetrate her for lets say the 1st three times I'd barley fit in her like she was that small and then when ever I'd go inside with my don't shed bleed more then after the 4th time she finally stopped bleeding. And she never used tampons and I know I'm her 1st bf so my question is was I the person who took her virginity she swears I was but i want other input please
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Hi,
From what you have said, I believe that she would not have said you were her first unless it was true. Yes, you were her first. She would have no reason to lie. In my experience, my previous girlfriends had had sex before and they told me so. Apart from one lady who had not and she mentioned this to me beforehand and afterwards. This lady was the only lady that bled a little and I respected her and made sure she was comfortable and felt secure and loved. I never doubted her as she would have had no reason to say otherwise. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks its just idk i guess i worry and the reason why is cus she lied to me about a dream but said it really happened and. for a year she swore she was honest till i find out shed lied straight to my face saying it was a dream so how can i take her word if she can and has lied looking me in the eyes....and were very close like eachothers BFF and lover so it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks and the reason why i am insecure is cus she lied to me about something that wasnt true while we were broken up for like a month cus she wanted time off she lied saying she was with somebody else and then she tells me a year later she was liying and what pissed and hurt me is shed look me in the eye and say she was being honest only to find out that shed lied to my face for a whole year but if yall say i was her 1st ill take her word
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 It sounds like you deflorated her manually, and by accident - how horrible,btw. I don't know why you are asking, some girls never bleed at all so I understand if their bfs may have a doubt, but the poor girl bleeded the first 4 times you penetrated her, you have not only her word ( that should be more than enough !) but also physical evidence that she had not been, shall we say, previously up close and personal with other penises, what did you want , that she'd bleed to death just to reassure you ?
Pardon me, OP, but you don't sound just insecure, you sound like a freak , your gf must love you a lot to put up with your " insecurities ".
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): She said you were, and you were. Stop acting like a jerk! I am sorry but my first pulled this shit on me, and honestly I hate him for it. Your calling her a liar, after she gave you the most precious gift she could possibly give you. Get some counseling and stop acting this way. I can tell you know that I regret believing my first boyfriend was a decent and special guy that was worthy of my love and virginity after he put me through all the crap of doubting me all the time, questioning whether I was telling the truth about him being my first.
I am sorry if I sound harsh, but this really hit close to me, and the torture I went through because of his insecurities killed all feelings I had for him, and I would hate for that to happen with you. From the sounds of what you described, YES you took her virginity and the least you can do is be thankful for the gift she gave you and treat her with a lot more respect by believing her.
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