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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. He broke up with me after he left, and then begged me to get back together with him. While be were broken up he went on a trip with another girl and told me that she had a boyfriend and that I had nothing to worry about. So I took him back. Since then he says that she is his best friend over there and that he only thinks of her like a sister and that nothing will ever happen between them. He talks to her about our relationship and she gives him advice, but says that she always sides with me. So if she is siding with me then clearly there is something he is doing wrong but isn't willing to fix. Recently he told me that he lied about her having a boyfriend so that I wouldn't get upset and not take him back. I asked him to not be friends with her anymore and he fought me about it and said that he has no one else to talk to and what is he supposed to do, just ignore her? He said that I should just trust him and that would fix things, because even if he ditched her as a friend I would still be wondering if they were hanging out all the time and still be jealous. I feel really confused. I feel like he is chosing her over me and if he really loved me than he wouldnt even have to think about it. But I also think that maybe he's right. I really need advice here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): He's controlling you. The sign? He told you a lie so you would think something he wanted you to think. Not nice. He's manipulative I'm afraid and I don't buy the 'Ive not no friends routine'. Personally I think you can't trust him and without that a long distance relationship has no chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Sounds like he has a thing going with this girl. How would he feel if you had best mate that was a guy and you discussed all sorts of personal stuff with him?? I think he would object, probably give you an ultimatum. Maybe you should give him an ultimatum, either her or you, and sorry to say, I think he will choose her!
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