A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My gf and I recently got into an argument... we have been dating for three years and we have been arguing alot lately... she said during our last argument that she could do anything... (lying a lot lately)... and I would come crawling back to her... I don't want to break up but I don't want to be walked on either... What do I do?Also I have another question... Am I overreacting about her constantly telling me she is going to do stuff just to have her come up with an excuse as to why she didn't do it... she says the right things but then doing them is a whole different thing... Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Wheeler +, writes (9 February 2011):
 By the time she actually felt she could get away with calling you a doormat, you had already been one for quite some time. And it is a long road back to making her respect you, if it is possible. You said that you don't want to break up, and as long as that is obvious to her she will continue to treat you the same.It should piss you off that she would say that to your face, because you are a man, and her language is intended to make you look and feel weak. For you to even consider letting your GF talk to you like that makes me think that you don't feel like you are good enough for her? In other words, you would rather let her talk down to you as long as you still have her in a relationship, as opposed to standing up for yourself at the risk of being single.Believe me, you can do better. And you should. That should be a dealbreaker. And maybe it is easier said than done, but it is absolutely necessary that both partners have at least some respect for each other, and she clearly has none for you.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): She's mocking you and rubbing it in your face. She's a liar? And she's a flake?
Why insist on staying with such a malicious person?
...............................
A
female
reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Shock her! LEAVE HER! You don't deserve that! You have to remain a man at all times! Don't allow her to make you anything less! Find a honest woman you can trust! GOOD LUCK!
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 February 2011):
You have officially been called a doormat by your girlfriend. And that fact that you won't dump her is not working in your favour. At all.
What do you do? you dump this arrogant, self centred, pathetic, miserable, unkind, uncaring excuse for a woman and move on. You are becoming exactly what you don't want to be - a doormat. And the only way now to retain your pride and manliness is to dump her, otherwise everyone will just say you're a pushover.
What happens if she continues to lie?
What happens if she cheats (she did say anything)?
How much more poor treatment will you accept?
The time has come to move on from her and find a better class of woman who will respect you and your kindness, not treat you like dirt.
...............................
|
