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36-40,
anonymous
writes:HelloI few months ago i visited a brothel... and it was a bad bad experience as i didnt get any pleasure out of it and it made me realise what i want in life ( a slow meaningful relationship) I taught me alot and show me that sex is crap and only good with someone you love and care for. The last few months ive been feeling very lonely ... my closest friends treat me like dirt so i dont speak to them any more (so right now i have no friends) i have no social life and dont go out much as i have no one to go with and have a lack of confidence. Im truely disgusted with myself because i made the same mistake as i made a few months back and visited the brothel again, this time i did manage to ejaculate... however it still didnt feel great... i just want to know how can i stop making me go back there and how can a meet some one who wants a slow moving relationship as i know what happens if its too fast.. dissapointment sexually either if you ejaculate or dont ....Right now and even before i dont feel good about myself and i did like try to convince myself i changed but i obvs havent.I ve had people tell my take up a hobby... which i have .. this is the gym.. its my life at the moment as its my hobby aswell but i dont know i just feel very lonely all the time ... so any one have any advice?
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (28 September 2009):
First off, you have realised what you don't want. Thats good, now you just have to promise yourself you won't waste your time (and money) in that seedy place! Right what you need to do is, make time for friends who make time for you. If they make you feel bad then perhaps there not friends worth having. Are you off to Uni or college anytime soon? you can meet loads of people there. Otherwise you could take up a hobby like mountain biking, running or some kind of charity work.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2009):
Don't visit that brothel again. You're going there because you want to feel card for, but as you now know, brothels only do sex and that's it. Do you have a job or something where you can socialize with other workers. And though the gym is great (keep doing that), you need to find another hobby (dancing is a great one) where there are other men and women who are out specifically to soclialize. And give yourself a break too. You're not a bad guy.
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