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*arbie3
writes:All my weekend are a mess ,i have been having piece jobs for six months and this time I have got a jb which recently started .I also do massage at home well it is not busy am still looking for clients by advertising.My problem is I moved in with my boyfriend in March after six months of dating .I believed it was a dream come true all was good ,but now I feel like am heading for a train smash.My weekends are a mess I have taken off on weekends to try and spend time home but I always wish I had been at work even sleep at work if possible.I have a daughter of 8 yrs old and his not the father ,but he was fine with all accepted my kid as his own.I pay all my child stuff.WhenI met him I was working had comfortable lif style and we looked for a house ,moved in together during the first month I lost my job, got broke had no money I lived on piece jobs all the money went on food for six months.we fought every weekend he toldme if i could not afford to pay he want me and my child out and this has been going on for months During the week all is well but weekend is hell and I do not look forward to a weekend any more .Now I got this job which will pay well but i was under training for the first three weeks meaning was not getting paid buthe still goes on about not having enough money for three people as he says my daughter eats so muchlike an adult.When I had money back then we lived well with out any fights .Now my life has changed at timesam so exhausted from work and looking forward to the weekend that turns to a nightmare.he never apologizes am always wrong to him ...he always tells me to move out.for instace the on Sunday we went to a get together at a restaurant all the friends where his and they speak German, which I do not understand and they laugh I really look stupid no one chats to me .He tells his best friend about my situation everything that happens to me ,like i have no money ,tha i have tried to do all sorts of things and nothing works, he says ama a dreamer I live a fantasy world. He never encourages me.I feel like his running me down and my confidence is dyingHis sometimes a nice guy cooks when am at work very lovely ,affectionate ,but from one minute to the next his the opposite.He tells me hw many months I have lived with him and not paid rentand that we can not live together i should move that is the best .I love him so much but I am sick of this .He is aware that i started a job and i can not afford to move now as am not yet paid.pls I need ggod advise his 49 am 27
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Is there any chance at all that you could move back with your family, or is there anything you can get in terms of government help. This guy is playing with you and you do need to get away from him for your own mental health and your child. Keep looking for jobs as well. Is there anyway you can retrain in something?
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reader, Kendra0589  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 It seems to me that this guy has split personalities. He's the nice caring guy one moment and the next he is a monster. I think his age plays a role in this as well. He's 49 and you're 27. You deserve someone that is understanding and caring. Of course he was nice at first as all men are and considering his age you were his prize. All I can say is try your hardest to deal with him until you get on your feet. You seem like a hard working person so you will be where you need to be in no time. Once you get your money like you want it immediately move out!! No one wants to hear someone telling them to get out everyday. Your daughter doesn't need to be around him either. Hope I helped!! God bless :)
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