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writes: I have to say that i am noticing a lot of KIDS aged 12ish asking questions about sex. What on earth is happening? Or are they maybe older and just putting this age? But, what has happened to kids and their youth? They are under age and shouldnt be having sex at that age and if the blokes are caught, arent they going to be in trouble? There just seems to be more and more children asking questions that should be coming from adults. Does anyone out there agree? And what are your views? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): Dear Waterloo
You have just taken thoughts from my mind.Is it me at 42 but is it not shocking these kids are asking about blowjobs, anal sex threesomes mind blowing. Also got to add the amount of teens and pree teens that answer posts regarding affairs, cheating they should be out enjoying their youth not wanting to play mummy/daddy. It's just so sad that all these youths and wanting to grow up too fast and sometimes the older folk want to act like teens. The amount of age gap couples young girls going with guys old enough to be thier dads (sigh) Bit the MOST SHOCKING INCEST and I can't believe on this site some have said if your enjoying it OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. What the bloody hell is going on. Is it me am I too judgemental i know it would kill me if my kids were having sex.Sorry this is just my thought don't want to offend anyone but c'mon it's crazy. i wish kids would read some of the post from older one to learn as there is really good advice on this site and the aunts/uncles are truly wonderful with thier effort and time. plus i don't know about anywhere else I am in UK but USA must be making a fortune on councelling and you can't even get an appiontment in UK for months as there it not enough services for the amount of folk that need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): ok i was 13 when i lost my verginity!
it was the biggest mistake of my life i was worried i was pregnant!for ages because i wasnt shure of the facts.
the best peice of advice i can give is to talk to your kids find out why they want to know about sex and give them all of the facts they need!
it sounds stupid i know but rest assured it works.
the will take all of the precautions needed!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 One of the disconserting things about these little kids having sex is the fact that they have no idea how human reproduction even works. Their questions prove it. Some aren't even clear on human anatomy. Scary very scary.
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reader, nondu  +, writes (25 October 2007):
i believe that childrens have every right to know about life as aerly as possible.They need to be tought be before they put a blame to parents that they did stupid things because the parents did not educate them about such kind of thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for all the replies, much appreciated.
I'd like to sent big hugs for Shan14, what a lovely story and i wish you two well in the future. Sorry to hear about your past, i know, mine wasnt wonderful either.
Take care
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reader, lisaant  +, writes (24 October 2007):
i no i was saying that to my brother today, i cant understand it most kid now days are not havin a life i remember when i was that age i was up a tree with rope making a swing or runin round the streets with my mums shoes on an my dad takin all the kids on mad walks so we go sleep at bed time i loved it but now kids are walkin round with fags spliff beer an vodka with one big rude mouth on them f this f that i dose my head the way they or i wonder what the world will come to when they take over cos it will never get better ppl are still killin an doin wrong that enviroment it growing an will carie on till till some brain box comes up with somethink
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Hunny,
I most definatly do agree, My daughter is 10 and ive read questions from 10yrs 11yrs and as you say 12.
It totally took my breath away to be honest as the questions were so matter of fact as if this is bloody normal, And I feel no way is this anywere near normal. I look at my daughter and no she is still at the stage were she is embarresed if her brothers tease her. The internet is in my bedroom and here it stays with me my man and her brothers keeping a watchfull eye.
And I would hope as with her brothers if she has any problem she will come to me or them, Ive always been honest and open about sex with the boys as they grow and mature answering any question they may have truthfully, But you can only guide, as has been said so many parents work long hrs, plus the anon post says its all.
Plus t.v and internet you have to be so carefull at what your child can get up to. As that is what these questions are been asked by and that is our children and hunny it is very scarey and Im open minded and thought I had seen and heard a fair amount, I was wrong at 12yrs old I was climbing trees making mud pies and looking for bugs in the garden. Sex WHOOO! No idea...And as flower girl says they have to ask strangers also no offence but it is scarey, TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY xxx
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reader, Shan14 +, writes (24 October 2007):
 To tell u the truth, maybe these kids have been mentally abused and hurt and maybe even lonely all the time. They ask because they have heard it's wrong but they like somebody so much that the are willing to have sex with them. I know this because I have been through some things in my life that no one will understand. I've been hurt by my mom,dad,ect.(not physically, but mentally.) But when I met this boy, I made it clear that I was a virgin and he was fine with that. We started learning about eachother and caring about eachother,then 11 months later he broke my virginity. I let him because he was the only one that actually listened to me and cared ect. I kind of regret the age but I DON'T regret the person I did it with.I know this isn't a good reason or excuse for doing it, but I was to the point where I wanted to kill myself but he was the one that stopped me. Not mom not dad but my boyfriend!!! Isn't that a shame.If u want 2 know yes I'm still going with him.
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reader, Dustin587 +, writes (24 October 2007):
 I noticed the same thing about the questions on here. I had a friend in high school that lost her virginity at the age of 12 - that's scary. Children should AT LEAST wait until the age of consent, which I think is 16 in the UK and 18 here in the US. A child is not emotionally ready to deal with the challenges of an unplanned pregnancy. I think the reason this is happening is the media. MTV, the Internet, and other common forms of entertainment strongly encourage sex. Peer pressure is also pretty tough. As a 20 year old virgin, I have endured a heck of a lot of criticism, but now that I am an adult, I am completely ready to change that, but it took me 20 years to become comfortable with the fact of losing my virginity. I can't imagine what it'd be like to lose it at like 12.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I totally agree. I came to this board about a month ago and I have been amazed by the number of 12-14 year olds that are asking explicit questions about having sex. The really scary part is that some of them are asking about having sex with 20+ year olds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I figure sex should wait until you're a teenager, having sex at 12 is just wrong, when I was 12 I was just a kid, I wouldn't know what to do in a situation where I'd be getting laid at that age.Not to mention at 12 you're just hitting puberty, your body isn't made for sex at that age.I say save sex and all the things you plan on regretting in the future and enjoy your childhood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): Parents are debating schools' provision of prescription birth control to girls aged 11 to 13. Middle schools in Baltimore are doing it; Portland, Maine, is now joining them. The Maine GOP and the local bishop are pressing the Portland school board to reverse itself. Arguments against it: 1) It violates parental rights. 2) It encourages premature sex. 3) Sex with a 13-year-old isn't just wrong; it's illegal. Arguments for it: 1) Middle schoolers are getting pregnant, so let's face the reality that some are having sex. 2) The schools' job is to protect girls so they can finish their education. 3) Providing the pills doesn't cause more sex. 4) We won't give them to pre-pubescent kids. 5) We'll report illegal underage sex. 6) Parents still have control, since kids can't use the clinics without a waiver. Human Nature's view: The average age of puberty has already fallen from high school to middle school, so wake up and smell the teen spirit. (Would you sign the waiver? I would.)
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 well i agree with u but parents are making it oke for them to talk about it which is 100%wrong according to religion and health .. sex could get them pregnant at an early age and that could and will ruin there lives:S well hope u open minds on this topic ...........byeeeee we r all with uXXX
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reader, flower girl +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Totally agree with you babe and i have to say with children of my own i find it so scary as i honestly don't remember kids being like this when i was younger.
I just hope if and when the time comes with my children they will be able to feel as though they can come to me to discuss such things insted of resorting to asking strangers, and that is by no means any disrespect to any of the aunts they give fantastic advice on here.
Take care.xx.
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