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*ylove09
writes:my boyfriend and i been dating for a year and 6 month. we always get in argument when he goes out to hang out with his friends because first of all his friends are all single and they talk about getting with girls all the time. btw we are in a long distance relationship, 3 hrs away. so he tries to come see me every other weekend. and i understand when he wants to go hang out with his buddies n etc.. but he never invites me! anyways he finally invited me this weekend. we were at his friends house just hanging out, they decided they want to go out clubbing, i didn't bring any clothes to go out clubbing. plus all the other girls were dressed up. i didn't want to be the only girl in causal clothes. so i ran quickly to the closes store and bought a dress and heels, well i thought i looks really pretty, but all my boyfriend did all night was bitch at me for buying clothes, he said i could have wore my jean n shirt i had on before. and by the end of the night my feet were hurting from the heels, and i was walking slow, my boyfriend started yelling and cursing at me, telling me i should have not bought anything and blah blah. I was really upset because he didn't compliment me, which he never does, and i wanted to look good was for him. but he didn't appreciate that. oh when i first got there(friends house), he didn't even greet me with a kiss or nothing. which made me upset because we haven't seen each other all week and i drove an 1hr to see him. and I just feel hurt and confuse, i don't know if i want to be with a guy who so cold and rude to me at times. what do you guys think?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Of course you are hurt. You dressed up to be with him and he gives you nothing in return, in fact, he cursed at you and criticized you for doing nothing but trying your best to be with him. This is not how a loving relationship should be.
I agree that communication is the key, in most situations but here, I see nothing. I see a fading relationship that may eventually lead to heartbreak for you. He had no reason to act so negatively towards you, he does not have a reason to lash out every time you tell him what you feel. He is slowly chipping away at the seams of this relationship and eventually it will shatter. I suggest you assess the relationship and see for yourself whether or not he is worth the devotion you have so willingly applied.
I hope that helps.
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reader, mylove09 +, writes (2 November 2010):
mylove09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what you mean, but every time i say something negative, he try to blame it on me. so im just tired of telling him when something is wrong, because its pointless. and right now he acting normal, but I'm not. im not saying i love you or being nice.I'm talking to him like a friend. and just rethinking what to do. i am just hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): You definitely need to tell your guy how you feel. Remember communication is key. Especially in a long distance relationship! But a guy that is so rude to you, i would say he is hardly worth your time. Consider the question: what is keeping you together. Only then you will know whether or not he's worth it
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