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writes:Hi thereMy boyfriend is in a wheelchair, it has been 6 years since his accident. We have only been together for 2 months, but the relationship has been 100% perfect, sexually and emotionally. Recently he has turned cold and says he needs time to sort out his head. Should I stay and ride it out, or move on?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 I hate to be a killjoy, but I think we're here, among other things, to provide different points of view. I agree that he may be out of the infatuation stage, and that maybe he needs time to solve a personal issue.
Now, I would add something. Sometimes one party feels the relationship is perfect and the other doesn't. We make the mistake of projecting our own feelings into others. Why don't you talk to the man to find out exactly why he needs time?
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reader, penta  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 I would move on.
It may be that the infatuation stage is over for him. If there isn't the beginnings of love, and infatuation has passed, there may be nothing for him to base a relationship on. It sounds like he simply doesn't have the words to tell you he's not returning your feelings. (To me, this makes him not worth the wait anyway.)
Do yourself a huge favor: don't hang around waiting on him. You deserve someone who knows he wants you. You won't find it in this guy, and you're not responsible for him. You can remember him fondly as the guy who didn't work out.
Hold your head up and go find the guy who is for you.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hi, just give him some time. Maybe he needs it to deal with some personal issues in his life. What you acn do is be very supportive at a time like this as we can only imagine how hard it must be for him. Give him the space he requires but also let him know that you are still there for him.Let him know that whatever he may be going through, you want to help him get through his tough time.
Good Luck, hope everything works out for you.
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