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writes:ok, so if you are here to call me a bitch or anything rude, you can just piss right off, i am not in the mood to be reading shit like that, i am in seek of some opinions or something...Lukasz [other guy] I kissed him and went to his place and we kissed more, and well I told Chris [boyfriend]. I had a nasty guilty continuous on me and now I'm stuck between the two. Because Lukasz told me that he thinks he's falling in love with me. We have everything in common. From movies, music, interests, even to the way life is and how things should be. Chris and I have nothing in common except for the part that he moved 4000kms for me. And now we're living together but fight all the time, even before I met Lukasz. So I asked Lukasz how he knew he was falling in love with me he said 'Because he can't stand leaving me and he spends every minute of the day thinking of me and kills him when we have to part. Chris is basically the same way.So I have two guys that want me so bad.. I'm the girl that doesn't ever get that. Who used to fight and fight for her ex's to stay with me, but now I've got 2 fighting for me.I told Chris tonight what happened, I bawled and figured he'd go and tell me to just go piss off and that would be it. But he still wants me, and I don't know what to do. I have feelings for the both of them, and I'm pretty much having to choose between the two. All Chris wanted to do was talk when I told him. He got to the mall 'cause I was freaking out and just hugged me when he got there. He said he was glad that I told him and that nothing more happened. Which it didn't. But I have know idea what to do.. He's trying not to cry, I've been bawling all evening. Chris is trying to do everything to make me stay. I don't know why. Well I do, but I don't understand it. Lukasz is so wonderful and Chris here is being nice, doing everything for me and he even made dinner. He can't cook but he still managed to put a frozen pizza in the oven and I ate some. I said to him that I wished that things were the same way as they used to be, he agrees but it's not the same anymore for me because there are feelings for Lukasz now too.I feel like the worlds biggest bitch to Chris and he still wants me, but the feelings are fading I think.Halloween ...Came home at like 5ish told Chris that I loved him and that I wanted to stay with him... I don't know if I made the wrong decision.. I keep thinking about Lukasz.
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reader, wickyricky  +, writes (11 November 2008):
hey well honetlyif u like lukasz and have more in common go 4 it life to short to muck about just do it girl just say chris your a bore now get out ..good luck
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (10 November 2008):
 Dont worry i wont critisize you, there are so many people in your position hun, these things happen.
ok if you honestly think your feelings with chris are fading and think somethings growing with lukasz, then follow your heart. if i were you, i wouldnt wanna spend most life wondering what could have been , had you only stayed with chris. life is too short to be with someone ur whole life if its not 100% on both parts. But if you come to thinkin you really do love chris, then go 4 him, if its not there give it a go with lukasz. hope iv helped hun and good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): Ok, well, from an outside point of view, you are no bitch. I understand the whole fighting for ex's bit, but that's not what this is about. If Chris knows how you feel about the other guy and still loves you, that's pretty special. Does this other guy (sorry, i can't remember his name!) know how you feel about him and Chris? If so and he still likes you, you are very lucky. If not, your problem is solved, so lets assume he's ok with it. So now, who - Chris or guy number 2? Well, with guy number 2, there was the attraction enough that even though you still loved Chris, you still wanted him; that's pretty powerful. And things havn't been too good with you and Chris. So, you can stay with Chris and play it safe, or take a risk and go with guy number 2. I wish i could help more, but i don't know the guys, so...
Well, i hope i've helped a bit.
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