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writes: I’m still very young, so please bear with me. I have zero experience when it comes to love. I met this guy, let’s call him John. Me and john were good friends, and we met on a kind of educational visit. He really liked me and I really liked him. He lives a fair way away, so I invited him to come to my hometown on the train. He did. A few days before he came down, one of my friends referred to him as “the boyfriend I never see” I don’t know why, but it upset me. Maybe it was just confirming my insecurities, but it really bothered me. So, when he came down, I was completely cold towards him. So, you could say I brought this on myself.Ok, so we’re both in 4th year, right? So, I’m 15 in the next month, and he’s 15 not long after. The girl he’s dating became 13 not long ago. He started seeing this cutsie, sweet, wide eyed-gooey innocent girl. Let’s call her Jane. So john, who always said he was not allowed to stay at a girls house, went to stay there. Not for the day, but for 5 days. At her house. And his parents were fine. So, he lied to me. Since he started seeing her, he’s blanked me COMPLETELY. I text him, I get one letter replies. Email, he says “can’t email right now soz.” We’re supposed to be friends. And he ruins it, y’know? It probably doesn’t help that I’m smitten for him.I though he really disliked me. One of his friends a while ago was being very weird with me. He called it a test. Well, to clean it up a bit, he called it the slut test. So, I told John about this. And he punched his friend. Several times. If john and jane are happy, why is he still protecting me? I didn’t want him to pummel the guy, just talk to him. If john and Jane are so freaking perfect, why does he still try to look after me? He said to the friend that it was because it was a horrible thing to do, but when his friend said “why do you care?” he didn’t reply.So, I suppose I should ask my question now. I think he still has slight feelings for me; I remember us talking on phones at the airport after our break up, when he was with Jane, saying that he missed me. So, what do I do? I’ve talked to him. I’ve spoken to him about it. He doesn’t want to talk about it. So, how do I get him back? Am I just supposed to wait?Please respond!Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, i forgot to mention:
he prides his relationship on seeing her often, but he see's her every month. He says he loves her, but he tells others he doesn't. Confused.
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