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writes:I am only 14yrs old me and my girlfriend had sex she is also 14 the condom ripped. So far she hasnt experienced any signs of pregnancy. my question is how long does it take her to start those signs if in fact she is pregnant? can anyone help me out?? ?how can me and her tell our parents that she is pregnant??? if she comes out positive...some one help us out we are very scared...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): damn bro the same exact thing happen to me resetly and we were scared at first but all you have to do is wait till she misses her period then she prbably is but if she gets it your all good the best advice is be calm and dont worry everyone makes mistakes in there life your not the only one
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): Well, you pretty much get what you deserve because you shouldn't even be having sex, if your underage, and you think its mature, heres the kicker: It's not. People SHOULD have sex AFTER they're married, but I'm not (mostly Christians have to), wait till your both eighteen, THEN worry about a teenage pregnancy, and if my kid were pregnant at fourteen, I'd disown them. GOOD DAY PEOPLE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Hey well... I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had a pregnantsy scare, if you 2 could get condoms then for shore you could get a pregnantsy test!! If you tell your perants be redy, they would be angry and disepionted in the both of you. Make shore they both relaxed when you tell then, it would go smoother that way
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reader, dalton and bonnie +, writes (9 July 2009):
i know how u fill im 14 and so is my girlfriend and the same exact thing happend to us but she is pregnat...all i can say to do is make the best of it..thats what i did it will all turn out ok..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): You are not going to jail: If you were 22 and she were 14, you would, though. Age of (sexual) consent varies state-to-state, but I believe most states is 16 years of age. Neither of you have reached the age of consent, likely, because you both are too young. Buy brand name condoms and get GF on pill (and I won't say if you continue to have sex because you very likely will...).
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): "we are very scared" Sorry babes, that's why we don't want you to play adult games.. We make everything frightening because we want you to get scared so you don't play around with sex. I have a video for you to watch and it explains all about pregnancy, how it happens and how long it takes.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/pregnancy/how-pregnancy-happens-4252.htm
If you have just had sex, then there is a pill your girlfriend can take that will stop pregnancy from happening. But she must get this from a doctor and she must take it within 72hours after sex. You don't get pregnant every time you have sex, even if the condom falls off. But it's a gamble, some people get pregnant easily, some people don't..For some people it can take up to a year to get pregnant, and some people get pregnant the first time.
See why we don't like you kids to have sex. Yes it's good you used a condom to protect her, but as you've found out, condoms can rip and they can fall off... Only no sex is 100% safe, you can do other things that don't involve getting pregnant, but it's better to do nothing at all and don't take the chance.
Call Planned parenthood, on 1-800-230-PLAN http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
If it's under 72hours since you two had sex, then move your ass quickly and get the tablet and then everything will be ok. Otherwise call them very soon, and speak to a doctor. They are used to silly kids who play adult games and get themselves in trouble. They will understand, they will help you and they will be very kind. You and your girlfriend must not keep this secret and try to deal with it alone. Call the adults and planned parenthood and tell them what happened and ask for some help.
You tried your best to make her safe but you did wrong. The doctors will help you and give you advice. Please stop this sex thing until you both are a little older. Take care babes, and tell her not to worry, tell her you've talked you found some people who will help you both out. Blessings.
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reader, RyanEricW +, writes (31 December 2008):
Wanting to have sex at this age is really strong naturally due to the fact that our bodies change so rapidly and are ready to start creating kids one after another.Due to technology our life expectancy has went from 20-30's, to 70+ years old.Our society generally doesn't accept young people having sex because they have no means of supporting themselves thanks to our government and their age limits and schooling requirements. BS, I know.I don't mind it, but you need to do it smart. Be aware of the type of condoms you buy, how lubricated everything is, and their exp date.I would also recommend talking to your gf, or your sex partner into asking for birth control pills. (This will require going to the gynocologist, and getting a presciption, but they may be covered by health care)They have been very effective, and that is the general consensus when I ask around including for my own personal sex life.The sure way to tell is a missed period altogether. Sometimes females have weird acting times where they will be a week late or early, or have it longer, or short, so don't freak out if it's already that time and it doesn't come around. It may be just delayed a little bit.If she misses 2 periods, you can be fairly certain she's pregnant. As suggested, get multiple, reputable pregnancy tests.I wish you luck. =)
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reader, alanna_HD  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 To take both of your minds off it there are still other methods of contraception that she can use not to protect herself from getting pregnant. I don't know how much you and your girlfriend are aware about other contraceptions but some can protect her AFTER unprotected sex..or in your case,if the condom rips. She can go to her family doctor or GP and get the morning after pill. This can be taken up to 72hours after sex, and will protect her, but its most effective the soon its taken. OR she can have a coil fitted which can be used up to 5 days after sex that will also prevent her from getting pregnant. Her parents don't need to give concent and they don't need to find out about her being given the pill or coil.
But think carefully about whether or not your ready for sex and the responsibilites and concequences of sex as well as being emotional ready.
xXx
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reader, katatonik +, writes (31 December 2008):
 According to the insert on my birth control pills, a single act of unprotected sex carries with it an approximately 8% chance of pregnancy. This would vary according to where she is in her cycle, of course.
Has she missed her period yet? If so, you have nothing to worry about until/unless she does, at which point she will need to take a pregnancy test.
If there is a Planned Parenthood in your area and you two had sex less than 72 hours ago, you and she could also go get the morning-after pill (also known as Plan B) which greatly reduces the chances of pregnancy following unprotected sex, and she could take that.
Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Just take it one step at a time. First wait and see if she misses her period. If this happens it might be time to buy a pregnancy test. Do not worry just yet though.
There are only certain times during the month a girl can get pregnant. Just because this happened may not necassarily mean you are pregnant.
If it turns out you are Pregnant dont panic. You both need to sit down with both sets of your parents (You'd rather have the conversation once than twice). Just sit down and explain what has happened. Talk to your parents. THis is your baby (if it has happened) But stand by your girlfriend
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reader, Howsyou? +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Well, The best way to tell is if she skips her period, or had a short period then she should take a few pregnancy tests (I say a few because they are not always 100% accurate)
If she IS pregnant you should disscuss with each other what will happen with the baby, if she keeps it, will u be involved? Then, if pregnant you should tell ur parents. Both be there, she should b there when u tell urs n u should defo b there when she tells hers. Perhaps get just 1 parent, the 1 u know will stay calmest, let them absorb it then ask them 2 tell the other. The do the same for her/ur parents. That way u wont have both parents trying 2 out-do each other with tryin 2 show who cares most. (lol). And also, u only get the problem of 1 parent.
Once she has taken the tests, if she turns out positive, Mail me!
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Every woman is different, some experience symptoms within the first week, other not until later on. wait until her next period is due. go and talk to a doctor about the morning after pill, but the only way to know for sure now is to wait and see if she misses her period, then take 2 or 3 home pregnancy tests(they aren't 100% so you need more then one to be certain.
Next time don't have sex until you are ready to deal with a pregnancy:)
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Hi sweetheart!!! Okay first thing would be to calm down. She may not even be pregnant. She can take a pregnancy test two weeks after the day you had sex, when you think she got pregnant. A urine test may not be accurate just then however, I would suggest that she take a urine test at two weeks, then a blood test at three weeks just to be sure. Blood tests are always more accurate. I know you are on your parents medical insurance especially since you are only fourteen, your parents would know if she got a blood test from her doctor. I suggest going to planned parenthood to have her take a blood test at three weeks. You can buy urine pregnancy tests at walmart, longs, or any drug store. They cost about 10 - 20 bucks. Remember do the urine preg test after 2 weeks then why dont the both of you go to planned parenthood at three weeks to have her take a blood test just in case. Good luck if it turns out positive then you can msg me and I'll help you out, but until then its a waiting game. Good luck to both of you. Try not to be scared, its going to be okay. You have each other right now. Try to support her because she may be even more frightened than you!!! Good luck sweethearts I hope that helped, if you have anymore questions feel free to msg me.
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reader, pinksky32002 +, writes (31 December 2008):
stop having sex. you are not ready for it. tell her to go take a pregnancy test.. if she doesnt start. but she needs to relax and stay as calm as possible. If she stresses about it, the stress can prevent her from starting. if she is pregnant, the two of you need to go together and talk to "the parents". Good Luck.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 The Signs start for Day 1 in some women and in the others they never Show.. !! There is no definite way of knowing.. !!
Yeah, If your girlfriend has a Full Period on time this month then it would mean that she is NOT Pregnant.. !!
AGE MATTERS.. !!
Did you learn that..? If you were of a LEGAL age, you would have known about other possible ways of dealing with pregnancy.. Do you even know about the Emergency Contraceptive Pill..? No, you don't.. !!
At 14 years, you should be playing soccer and studying.. !! You're "NOT LEGAL" and if the girl turns out to be Pregnant you both might well end up in a JAIL behind the bars.. !!
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