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female
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36-40,
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writes:OK, here's the story: My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 8 months now and have been in a relationship for just over 5 years (much of which was during college and quite long distance). I've been really happy for the majority of the time - we don't really fight about much and are both very easy going. I recently found out that I'm pregnant and am thrilled about having the baby. So, here are the issues...My boyfriend has pretty much ignored the baby situation and doesn't like to talk about it at all. Also, he doesn't seem to be as interested in sex as he used to be. We probably get around to it about once a week -- if that. I need more than that! However, he sometimes spurns my advances and hardly ever initiates it himself - I thought guys couldn't get enough! Another issue - a few months ago I found out that he had been texting and calling girls from adult personals ads and dating sites, and had a few profiles up saying that he was single. It was pretty devastating for me and I confronted him. He admitted it, but said that he had never actually met any of the women. I believed him, but just a few days ago found several calls on our home phone going out to escort services/craigslist-esque "erotic services" lines, as well as visits to various adult personals sites. Now I don't know what to do. Before that issue in the past, I had never ever been jealous or questioning about our relationship and never ever thought he would cheat on me. Now I don't know if he actually is seeing someone else/hookers (which would explain the lack of interest in sex) or what. I don't want to have to be paranoid and always wondering if he's cheating. Now, especially because I'm 5 months pregnant and super emotional/horomonal, I'm lost! Any advice anyone may have, please let me know! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this - I hope one and all have a wonderful new year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the response and support - reading your answer actually truly eased my fears and I'm definitely going to get my sleuth on and (covertly) investigate. I'm super excited about my pregnancy and know that it will only be a matter of time before he comes around. Thanks again and happy, happy New Year!
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