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writes:I have had sex so many time with my boyfriend and hes always cummed in me but im not pregant and we r trying and it doesnt work... WHy does that happen???By the way he does smoke WEED! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): Hay what the hell are you guys thinking, weed makes the sperm swim abnomaly so you getting pregnet is going to be harder but just keep trying you'll get it but if you try for a year or longer you have to go into a doctor for help with it but take prenatel vitmens. I have a son its a different father but my boyfriend now does smoke weed and we have tryed for over a year and we got nothing and i did ask the doctor and she said that i have to get help if i want to get pregnet so needles to say go in if you want one now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): yes i do think so because smoking to much weed does really make it low trust me i knw did it with my boyfriend thousand of times and yet and still im not pregnant thhats just straight up weid if you ask me
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): Uhm i really dont think that, that is the meaning for you not getting pregnant. It's possible that it could be you or him but it could just be its not reached yet. But fuck outta here these girls with thier thoughts need to just stfu because when you hit 18 your grown and that doesnt even matter if you get pregnant than you do but nyou just gonna have to take care of your responsibilities!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): wat is this a dont get pregnant retreat. I know this guy who smokes weed a whole lot i think way more than ur bf does and he just had a kid so i dont think its imposible but its goin to be really hard because i am in the same situation. As far as u wanting a baby thats ur concern. No one here has the right to judge anyone else because my mother had me at a young age and it didnt stop any thing she wanted to do in life i did slow the process but she did it any way. Who promised this young lady she will live to get married you people live life as if its ur own. God controls everything so if she has a baby at 16 or 116 it was god's plan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): I'm going through the EXACT same thing you are. My boyfriend and I have been trying for several months and I still haven't gotten pregnant, as far as I know. He smokes weed constantly and I did almost just as much. But I've stopped and I'm following tips so I can get pregnant faster.
And as for the other people telling her to not get pregnant and leave her boyfriend, put yourself in her shoes. Would you listen to someone telling you that? I am pretty sure she knows what she is doing, she didn't ask for your advice on what she should do, she simply asked why she can't get pregnant. Why are you lecturing her? And especially judging someone who smokes weed, now please tell me what is so wrong with it. People use it to have a good time or calm their nerves. If you cry when you get mad and it calms you down, imagine someone telling you that you need to stop. Would you? It's all the same. As for her being young, well I'm 16, and anyone telling me I'm not fit to be a mother, you make me LAUGH. You do not know her, or me for that matter, so how would you know what she's like with children? Or if she's in an environment suiteable for a child? What is the difference of a 16 year old being a mother and a 26 year old? Absolutely nothing. Not everyone has the same maturity level and/or strength for this. And btw; neither of them can go to jail. If she's 16, sex is CONSENTUAL. She's allowed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): For those of you who are 16, 17, 18 years old, and think you are ready to have a child, then you are all dumb in the head, and are going to raise the dumbest children too! Great, that's exactly what we need in society, more troubled children that have children as parents, who can't even get into bars at their age but think they are ready to raise a child! OMG!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): i think that you are young to have a beby but old enough to make your own decisions. I have the same problem. I am 18 years old and i been with my man since i was 16 we have never used a condom and i still aint knocked up. we both smke a lot of weed but i have calmed down a lot. I know its because he smokes to much. you can still get pregnant by him its just goin to take a little while longer than it may take other people. nd a little advice dont have him quit smokin jus have him slow down cuz i kno how it is girl!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): You know I got pregnant at 16 the very first time with a condum and yes we all know it changes our lives but that isn't what you are on here for and that isn't the advice your seeking......So the answer to your question yes I think it does...Im 24 now and have been trying for number 2 for a year and my partner smokes weed (he isn't a low life either) and I think since I was so fertile at one point it has to be him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): Hey i just wanted 2 say that u and i are in a similar situation and i am young like u. Yes smoking weed does affect that process. my boyfriend also smoked ALOT of weed. however i made him stop, we also want kids.
i would like 2 say to all the other people that commented that they are acting like they live on another planet. OPEN YOUR EYES and see whats going on!!! YES she's young... yes their are other options for her... that doesnt mean that shes doomed because she wants a gift so great that is a symbol of her and the one she loves. who are you to say that she is wrong..... for that u might as well jump into her body, be her, go to school for her, and become the next oprah winfrey! let her live her own life... she'd be blind and retareded if she didn't know that life has other options... but thats her risk to take.
If she hadnt known that, i doubt she would've posted the question in the first place... you guyz are acting as though that one question gave you insight on her charecter and the extremes she would go to to pretect the life of her child.
people are jumping the gun saying that her boyfriend could be put in jail for impregnating her.... thats if her boyfriend is over 18...and im pretty sure she didn't include that in her question. my mother, father, and uncle work in law enforment and trust me the cops and precints have better things 2 do then track the person who impregnated a 16yr old girl..... its too common! be realistic.... that would only happen if her parents or her herself pressed charges.... and even then im sure she would not agree to cooperate in convicting the father of her child...
Good luck 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): this is because smokin weed reduces the amount of sperm and healthy sperm his sperm count isnt as high
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): yeah its cool for you to have a kid at 16, why don't you grow up instead of ruining your life at a young age
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): I know were you are comin from because that has happened to me before and the reason you can't get pregnant is because if your boyfriend smokes weed and you are trying to get pregnant its not going to work because when a boy smokes weed and he is trying to have kids, it is most likely that it won't happen because he has a low sperm count. That means that if his sperm count is low then his sperm won't travel like they normally would and get lost. Thats why i broke up with the boy i was with who smoked weed because he couldn't give me any kids as long as he was smoking. Now i've got a boyfriend who doesn't smoke weed and we have had sex lots of times. But i think im going to break up with him now because i told him that i wanted to have his baby and he told me that he didn't want kids right now. I asked him what if i got pregnant by him when we had sex, what would he do and he told me that he would tell me to get an abortion. I was very mad at him when he said that. So i know were you're coming from girl. Just get yourself a boy who doesn't smoke weed and you will have a baby in no time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): You are 17 and you i both know that weed makes his sperm count go down. i am not the brightest crayon in the box, but i do know that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): OK, all these people on here are telling you to stop trying to have a baby at so young and telling you to make your bf stop smoking or to leave him, I'm not going to do that.
If a male smokes weed it's been scientifically tested and discovered that it does indeed lower their sperm count. However, they still do have sperm- but they are differently shapped than the normal sperm. Smoking weed on either side can and will cause a premature baby, but you can prevent it from being too premature by following the right steps during pregnancy.
As for the people who say that she is too young and she needs to reset her standards for a boyfriend. Just because a person smokes weed does not mean they are an animal. Truth be told, Marijuana would've been legalized during the prohibition for alcohol BUT they couldn't legalize both because it would cause mass drama of all forms. My opinion is simply, weed isn't and shouldn't be seen as such a bad thing. As for being to young and smoking drinking getting pregnant whatever, if you think that your child or any teen for that matter isn't out doing these things, you are an idiot. Such behaviors are a part of life and growing up. Studies have also shown that people who go through these things in their younger years grow up faster in the mind, street wise and most certainly most times in their grades. They can find themselves through themselves. So lets not lecture her on HER desicions, she hears them enough from whoever shes around, if she hadn't thought about it she wouldn't be on here looking for your help, so do her a favor and help her with what she wants to know and NOT with what she dreads to hear out of the average bickering person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): i think it is because he smokes weed. last time i smoked weed my period came really weak. somehow it affects the whole uterus thing and i suppose in males it affects their sperm.
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reader, sunshine99  +, writes (21 March 2007):
 Weed is bound to affect your chances of getting pregnant. At your age I don't know why you want child at your age and especially with a bf like that! we have been trying for a child for 2 and a half years now with no luck but I know I have plenty of time yet and so have you. I am 25. See - you have plenty of time. Stop being in a hurry. Live your life and have fun. You are only young once. My mate has had a baby recently and from seeing her cope, it isn't easy and it even makes me have second thoughts bout having a child - yes even at 25 years old!! Please think this through.
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reader, Farris +, writes (4 March 2007):
 I don't think that I need to add another "Don't get pregnant!" message here, because I think you can already read that sentiment everywhere else on this page... Needless to say, you need to think long and hard about what you're doing, and all the reasons that justify it. The sentiment "I want a baby" isn't enough.
Personally, when I have babies, I would not let them anywhere near someone who smokes weed. You need to think carefully about what you're doing, not only with your life, but also the life of a tiny and helpless baby.
I suspect the reason why you can't get pregnant, is because you're too young. Sure, you may have started your period, but that doesn't mean that your whole uterus is fertile enough to become impregnated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): Firstly you are far too young to get pregnant. You are under the legal age to have sex and so shouldn't be thinking about having sex mind having a baby. A baby isn't a toy, they need looking after 24/7. They need feeding, having their nappy changed, they wake up in the night etc. Also have you thought who would look after it when you are at school? They can also affect your future as you have to base that around the baby. Wait until you are older with your life more mapped out before having a baby. And with the fact that your boyfriend smokes weed that affects you ability to have a baby. And in several years time you might decide that he's not the boy that you want to be the father of your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): Hi i no you didn't come on here to have people tell you not to get pregnant but please please PLEASE stop and think about what you are doing. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and i fell pregnant (planned not an accident) when i was 19, even though i had the most supportive family and partner, we both had well paying jobs and owned our own home it was the HARDEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE!!!! I love my daughter but i wish i had waited a few more years because i missed out on so much. I never got to go out partying and have fun have a life, i'v lost all my friends because there lives are sooo different to mine and we just have nothing in common. It put so much emotional stress on my relationship with my partner that we have had many fights (and he is not taking any drugs so think about the problems you'll have with a partner that is always stoned). You need someone who will help you, my sister-in-law fell pregnant to her weed smoking boyfriend at 16 he's never home, he never helps her and he spends all her child welfare money on weed, she begs me for money!!! Just please don't make the wrong descion because once that baby is born there's no turning back its your responsibility for the next 18 years (and probably only your responsibility because i doubt the father will stick around that long).
Also on the weed side i don't no if i'm right but i do no that every girl i no who's been pregnant and had a man thats smokes weed around her has ended up having very premature babies, that can't be coincidence!!! You don't want a baby let alone a premmie baby at 13-15 years of age.
Please go to school, appreciate your friends and find a boyfriend who respects you and wouldn't let you make such a terrible choice at such a young age.
I'm sorry to go on at you but i just want you to understand. Goodluck
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reader, kazz1987 +, writes (4 March 2007):
oh dear i didnt realise you were 13/15 dont get pregnant now you dont realise how hard it is
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reader, kazz1987 +, writes (4 March 2007):
getting pregnant isnt about if he comes in you. he can do that a thousand times a day if he wants but if its not the right time of the month ( when you are ovulating) you wont get pregnant, and stop having sex just to make a baby forget the baby making and enjoy it it will happen faster that way and you will have a happier relationship. dont put too much pressure on yourself or you bf to get pregnant. i was with my bf 3 weeks and i got pregnant but my sister was with her husband 6 yrs (married for 6 together for 10 trying for 8) before she got pregnant, the advarege woman takes a yr to get pregnant. your time will come x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007):
Seriously, why? So your parents become the parent to their grandchild? How are you going to raise it, and why are you so ready for your childhood to be over? Do you like to party? It sounds like it if your boyfriend smokes weed. Try carrying an uncooked egg around with you all day, you can't leave it lying in another room while you take a shower unattended one or the other of you will have to carry it all day....see if you can keep it from falling off the counter and breaking, that is what it is like having a newborn, and this goes on for the first few years if a child's life....are you ready for that? Like to hang out with your friends and go to movies, forget about it!
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reader, snookerfan +, writes (3 March 2007):
Hi,
Im not sure about whether weed can effect fertility, but it wouldnt suprise me to find out it did!
But why are you trying to get pregnant so young?! Do you know how much you will miss out on, and how much dedication and selfishness a baby requires? Have a good, a very good long hard think about this! Ask your mother what its like to raise a kid!
And please please get your bf to stop smoking weed! Someone on drugs (even weed) is not fit to raise a child!! do u really want your child in an environment where there are drugs?
Good luck whatever you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): ok no i dont think that would affect it but i do know that people that take drugs in general it can affect there chances and not just in having kids. Tbh i don't get why you havent got him to stop surely you would rather be with you bf without him taking drugs and another thing is you are WAY TO YOUNG to be getting pregnant let alone having sex i realise its your choice but you have to think about the fact that you could give you child a better life if you have a good job that pays well and so that you have lived your life becuase once you have one you can't just push the kid on to someone else becuase you miss going out. And also please take into consideration that you bf could be put in jail for getting you pregnant im saying this for your sake even if it doesnt seem like it trust me. I'm sure you would want the best for your kid(s). Reguarding it affecting it i have said what i thought but you are best asking medical people or looking it up on google or something.
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