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writes:I'm not sure that I love my husband anymore. He is a good provider and works hard but I feel like he takes me for granted! I want to be treated as a person and not just as a mother and unpaid housekeeper. I have tried to talk to him and things change for a little while but then everything just goes wrong again. I don't know what to do and fear that I don't love him enough to stay with him. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, sunrise +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Hi, you need to sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and ask him how he feels and how he see's your relationship.
He may be one of those men that are blinkered, the longer you let it go on the longer he wont see what he is he doing and how he's making you feel, some men are brought up to think that as the husband they provide and therefore are head of the household and the wife will just go along with it, but tmes have changed. you obviously still love this man but he is slowly turning your love for him into resentment. If you want to save the marriage you have to make him understand that as things are you are truly unhappy. I wish you lots of luck and hope it all works out the way you want it to x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Hi Tracy,
I dont know much about married life, but i do know about relationships in general.
Not being sure about your love for your husband must give you a terrible feeling. Its good that you have tried talking to him because this is what i feel is the only option you have.
Try talking to him again.
I always find it better in a confrontation conversation not to say that HE IS taking you for granted but to say that YOU feel that YOU are not appreciated as much anymore. This is saying the same thing but he is more likely to listen.
If you are not able to communicate with him, then you might need a more aggresive approach and maybe suggest that you both spend some time on your own (this might just be sleeping in different rooms) until he learns to respect you and appreciate all that you do for him.
Everyone responds differently. You know your husband better than I obviously - so dont be afraid of ignoring what other people say (including me)and just to do what your heart says.
I hope everything goes well. Let me know what you choose to do and how everything is going.
Sorry this is such a long reply!
Love Leonie
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