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writes:Hi everyone, I am in my first year at university, and while it is going great, I am finding all the male attention a bit overwhelming. It seems every guy I talk to is interested. Currently there are two I am potentially interested in myself, while there are around 8 that currently do/probably do (according to my own evaluation and my friends told me that they probably do). Out of the two I am interested in, one seems to be a player and so I am being very careful, but from other questions I have asked of people he may actually like me. He is attractive and my type of guy except for the potential to be a player. The other guy is also very attractive but I haven't known him as long. Ever since we first met we had those "awkward moments" when you know you like each other right away and everyone can see it. He seems like a nice guy but is a bit more shy. So, really, I think I have a few questions. What to do about all the unwanted guy attention? How to let them know I'm not interested? So far my method has been to not txt back when the conversation gets boring and to keep my physical distance a bit more.Question 2: Which guy to choose, if either? Or should I wait? Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): To mizz.butterflies: I don't give them my number unless I need to/they are my friends. Only a couple of them have my number. The others contact me through fb or only in real life
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 dont give ur number out to guys u dont really like.
give them a myspace or something.
stop texting with random guys all the time.
now ...these 2 guys....
wait will they ask u out, looks to me that u are in need of a boyfriend and rushing before someone has made their interest towards u clear enuff.
however.... since u seem 2 be all over the place
i dont think ur qualified enough to handle a "player".
Shy guy sounds better.
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reader, Minou  +, writes (9 April 2011):
Yeah your method is right as well and i think your second question will solve the first one to quite some extent.
If you choose the player boy, that might be perfect for you in the beginning with romance (given that he is experienced being a player),however it might end up hurtful.
For safety precautions, i would ask you to choose the other good boy one. You can also just see what your heart say. With whom You want to be the most?
Once you've got your own boyfriend, i guess the other ones will get hint that you are not interested in them and is not actually looking for one also for them to try their luck :) hope it helps :)
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reader, LizBetty  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 Though is always like that because it is happening to me now. As a fresher on campus everybody want to have you,but that doesn't mean they are in love wit you.All you need to do is to watch out for the best and don't jump into any relationship you will later regret.
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