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writes:Hey, Im a girl from Europe and I really need help. I have been talking to a guy through msn and we got to love each other, though we have never met, because he lives in the USA. He told me to ask him anything I dont know and anything I want to know, but I am too shy to ask him some questions. He admitted me that he loves me and I told him I love him too. We 'met' in february and now its august..and we got to reach the point to tell this to each other in july. He told me that he would marry me because in his eyes I am perfect and he could live his whole life with me. And when I told him I love him very much and I can hardly stand that I can't express this to him from face to face he told me not to worry about this since we are happy, because noone knows what will happen and he wants me to be happy and not to be sad about it. But I cant help, I want to be with him very much. I am afraid of talking about this with him, because I don't know what he really wants. Should I ask him about this? Or I would scare him with a question like for example 'Do you want me to be there?' ? I miss him all the time..I can talk to him about everything and I just wish I could be with him. I am just 18 and I am in high school and I dont have money to go there. He is 19 and he goes to college so he can't do it too. Do you think it is a big distance? How lond should we go on like this? He told me that he is here for me until I find someone better. But I dont want anyone else because he is the one I love. I am afraid of that I might find someone, because I would never hurt him and I dont even want to lose him. And of course I am afraid of that he might find someone too. Please help me. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all help so far..i knew that the answers wont give too much hope for me to continue it, but they r useful in any way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for your helps so far..I thought it is not that easy..but I will see what will happen
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reader, nightwalker  +, writes (22 August 2009):
 Things are not so good, sorry to say that.. if you saw you were feeling something for this person, you should had let go in the beginning.. im sorry but im going thru the same thing... i leave in greece and the person i love lives in new york... i only get to see him in summers.. and that isnt enough... people have needs and its hard to hold your self back when they see each other once a year... you must think of your future... what will you do move in usa..??? what about your school? Lets not forget love isnt all butterflies and clouds... and painful... in the beginning yes things seem wonderful but at some point the cruelty of life hits both of you and thing get bad. now imagine things get bad and you have moved in usa just for him... what happens if you brake up... youll regret you messed up your life for him.. youll regret you didnt stay home and made a successful life... listen most importantly stay in school... get a job... dont depend on someone that could just walk away on you...im sure youll find someone else.. i know you dont want to hear this.. and im sure you wont listen to me.. cause i didnt my friends and now things are f up... sorry.. but go out meet people.. make friends... theres not only 1 man... out there... and think of this better to have him close to you and there when you need him than over the atlantic ocean...
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reader, kitty-katy  +, writes (21 August 2009):
I know the feeling.
There's not really any point asking if he wants you to be there, when you can't. I doubt the question would scare him though. But I'm sure he'd be fine if you said stuff like "I wish I could be there with you".
As for how long you should go on, you really need to think about meeting up. If that's not ever, or for a long time, possible, then it isn't really a practical relationship.
Good luck!
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