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female
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36-40,
*lue_yogurt
writes:I was angry at my boyfriend and crossed a boundary that I shouldn't have. He told me something in confidence about his sexual history, I had been angry with him earlier and in while in that angered state, I told his sister. He has every right to be upset with me, I shouldn't have done what I did - I had no right to bring his sister into it - it had been something he told me, and me alone. I apologized profusely, and I am truly agonized that I hurt him so badly. He does not believe that I am sorry or that I can change.He's no longer speaking to me, and has told me not to call him.. which I am not. I respect his wishes, but I miss him terribly.I am afraid that when he returns from his trip to California he is going to break up with me because of this. I don't want us to end the relationship of this one mistake.Do you think he will forgive me? I know I fully deserve everything I get for my actions, I wish I could take them back, but unfortunately you can't take back the past.Is there anyway that I can salvage this relationship? Or any way to let him know how sorry I am and how much he really means to me? I know he is hurting, and it hurts me too. I am giving him all the space and time that he needs.. but I hope that some part of him realizes that I am truly sorry, and that I love him more than anything.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (26 August 2007):
 If it was me I probably wouldn't break up with you depending on how bad this secret is, but I'd definatley consider it, and there's no way I'd forgive you, sorry.If you tell one of your friends of w/e that's one thing, but telling his sister? She might not even look at the guy the same way again, you crossed the line and ran a marathon on the other side.If I were you I wouldn't try and focus on it, just act like it didn't happen and work with whats going on now rather than bringing up something from the past.
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reader, hugs4u002  +, writes (26 August 2007):
You can try the 3 A's of sincerety...Apologize for what you did, Acknowledge what you did wrong, and Assure it will never happen again. But you have to mean it... good luck!
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