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reader, hindsight  +, writes (21 July 2010):
As a fantasy? Absolutely. What's not erotic about thinking about my wife having sex?
Would I want to do it in reality? Not really, there's a lot more bad than good that could come from it.
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reader, djkool182 +, writes (22 January 2010):
yess i do . the thought of another man have sex with my girl friend turn me right on . even the thought of her getting nocked up does but i cant seem to get her to do it
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (14 August 2009):
 Not particularly. But I have been in a relationship where I and another man pleasured my woman and so to that extent I was more interested in her enjoying it than excited that another guy was doing her.
Its all a matter of perspective. Some guys want that experience because it proves to them that they are still attracted to their woman. On the other hand, the down side of that is that it may make a guy feel inferior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I think you are looking for an excuse to see your wife being used. Maybe its time you considered whether you have lost respect for her and your relationship? Without boundaries it is meaningless. I would not ever want my wife to be with another man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): "I would like to see my wife having sex with another man, the thought excites me."
The last part is the key. The thought is exciting. To me the fantasy is exciting, but the reality would not be. If you like to fantasize about that then I can understand why it would be exciting to you. However, if you really want it to happen then you are in very dangerous territory. That is why people have fantasies. It allows them to mentally experience something that they would never want to do in real life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): My boyfriend loves to fantasize about me being with another guy and also says he has friends who fantasize about the same with their wives.
That said, I would be very careful about taking this into reality and really examine your feelings. It can be a very erotic fantasy, but not feel so goo in reality. My bf, for example has commented that while it's probably his favorite fantasy, if we tried it for real, he'd probably end up wanting to kill the guy, rather than being turned on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I am a female and the thought of it makes me sick,my ex was talking about it once and from what he was saying i think he was suggesting he would like for us to try it his turn on of course,it never did happen
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reader, \m/J.D\m/  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 hahaha at uncle phil and rifraf =D
And i would respond to your question but im female. sowi lol
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 I'm really curious about why someone would want this (I find the idea horrifying). This was the closest I could get to a good understanding:
http://www.nerve.com/dispatches/ma/cuckold/printcopy.asp
Anyway, as the article suggest, you are not alone! There is an active subculture around this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): No way in hell, Id be locked up if I saw that.
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reader, kerry169 +, writes (13 August 2009):
 im not a male but this is very common in both sexs so ur not by yourslef... but after it happens most people wish it didnt...
say it was ur mate who had sex with ur wife and then it started to happen more and more, and they become good friends, and because u knew what they have done, you will assume something more is going on. i have heard it happen before,
i wanted my man to sleep with my friend but it was for a completely diff reason and i thought i was doing it for our own good but wen he drove of to be with her i cudnt stop crying, wen he came back i put on a brave face and made him a cuppa as we talked about it. he came over to hug me and i could smell her i couldnt touch him untill after he got a shower..she went round and told everyone she was pg with my fellas baby.. witch was a lie.
IF you and your wife both want this go for it but instead of watchen try a 3some so you dont feel left out use a condom and well have fun
IF you or yuor wife DONT want this then why not try somefing else to spice ur life up
like talken dirty about someone else that really get my fella and me going
or try some toys in bed thats fun to... whatever you choose HAVE FUN
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reader, Guitarist +, writes (13 August 2009):
 I think it would make me sick personally but everyone has their own fantasies etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): If it was my first wife, after a couple of years of being married to her, I would have been delighted if some other man had sex with her on the condition that he also took her away and kept her afterwards.
If it was any other wife or partner I wouldn't like the idea one bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I'm sure I would break her heart if I made it seem that I value her devotion to me so little.
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reader, Pyroshadow +, writes (13 August 2009):
No. I am absolutely disgusted at the idea of letting another man touch my girl.
Before me, my ex used to have threesomes with 2 guys. I find just the though of that disgusting. I could never watch her touch another guy.
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