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*yewatson
writes:I really need help! I like this girl and she likes me. When we are at school she's often quiet. I want to be able to talk to her. I want to use the time and just talk. Do I walk up to her and just start talking? Would that make her comfortable?? I would like two scenarios I could try to talk to her and make our developing relationship better. Reply to this Question
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reader, This_face +, writes (16 February 2009):
That's great you're taking the initiative to try to talk to her. Sometimes people give up trying to talk to shy people, which isn't always fun. Here is a scenario: When she is eating lunch you could sit down near her with your friends and just say hi and then ask her about her lunch. Maybe she'll be eating a sandwitch and you could ask her what kind it is. Smile, don't be overly friendly, listen to her, ask her questions and keep coming back. That way her confidence will build, she will have things to reply to and if she doesn't do so well at first there will be chances in the future. I don't know how your school is set up but here are some more options: while waiting for the bus ask her about classes and homework, before an assembly make random comments, find her in the library or computer lab and ask her something you found out about her interests (this one will lead to a lot more and will be less intimidating), sit next to her in class and talk about the class, compliment her on a clothing item while at the lockers, ask her if she's attending such and such an event when the posters go up, tell her something she can connect to while waiting for school to begin, talk to her friends to find out more about her some day when she isn't at school...the list goes on. Please tell us how it goes. I'm really excited for you.
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reader, minnie_me  +, writes (16 February 2009):
Well you could try and just make a random but friendly conversatin with her. Just talk about random things like what class you have next that kinda thing and then eventually she will get to feel more comfortable with your conversations.The more confortable she gets with these conversations the more you will get to know eachother.
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reader, anoms  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 if you dont know enough about her to strike up a good conversation why dont you wait until your both doing a subject you both enjoy and ask her advice on some of your work, and say her opinion means a lot to you etc, she might realise you have somthing in common, good luck.
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 do you have any classes with her..the best thing to do is to start there, start up some conversation with her, ask her about what you're currently doing in class..
even if you just say hi-it's a start
and as time goes by you guys will gradually be more comfortable to tlk to each other..
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