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writes:my bf has an ex wife who doesn't allow their child to come over unless i am not going to be home. This has always been like this. fr day one, but i put a stop to it and told them i no long was goin to hide from her.but its been along time and still she wont let their child come over unless i'm not here so i told my bf to go ahead and lie to her again telling that i wont be here but i realy i'm here every time their child come around.i would like to knw if i should be mad at myself for having to do this and allowing my bf to do this again...??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 December 2010):
Your boyfriend needs to grow some balls and go to court. She can't legally prevent him from seeing his child. He's being a wimp! Tell him to be a man. His ex's behaviour alone could see him get extra rights to his child.
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reader, madasshell1 +, writes (31 December 2010):
This is not a matter that you should be dealing with. This is between the baby's mom and your boyfriend, it's unfortunate that she uses you as a reason for him not to see his kid! However you should never let anyone run you out of the comforts of YOUR home. If he really respects you he will work that out with her, if all else fails he might have to make other arrangements to see his kid for now. Your respect and comfort should not be compromised in the process. You need to sit down and discuss this with him seriously. If you are that important to him he will put a stop to this madness. Perhaps he should try to convince her that your safe and that he will never let you hurt his child if thats what shes worried about. What is it about you that worries her foreal? If it has nothing to do with how you may treat her child, she may still be hung up over him, and cant let him go. With that being said he has some unfinished business with her, and its not fair to for you to be caught in the middle. Talk to him and see where his head is at on the issue. Out of fear of losing you he may at least try to straighten things up. If all else fails he can get a court order to see his child, with prearranged visits, you know joint custody, he got to do what he got to do.
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