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writes:Wednesday the 15th I had a date set up with a guy. We were going to go for supper which was his idea. Then last night came and he said he was really tired cause he had to work a bunch of night shifts, which I understood and he said another time. Anyway, I carried on and went out to the bar with my friends. So, I felt this guy staring at me and looked behind me and it was him. So he walked away and then came over 2 minutes later. He said hi and then my friend told him to get lost. I am a very forgivable person and felt bad. Anyways then he started texting me saying he was sorry and he wasn't an ******* and that he was scared and didn't realize how pretty i was. He kept texting me and I was like whatever. Then he came over to dance with me, but my friend wouldn't let me, but she finally did. After that I left the bar and came home and went to bed. he texted me about 10 times and even called a couple times telling me how sorry he was and that he really ****** up and didn't realize I was so pretty. Then I woke up and he texted me saying "how much do you hate me" and another one saying "that I don't know him" or something so I texted him back being I don't hate you and stuff. He replied back and we talked about it and i forgave him. Then he said if you ever want to hangout or watch a movie or want a booty call let me know. I told him I wasn't looking for sex and then he replied he was just kidding. I didn't reply and he sent me 3 texts to prove he didn't want sex. I don't know what to do, I don't know if its nothing and I should carry on or what. I told him we could watch a movie but only at a movie theater. I understand that it is scary meeting someone of the internet but then why ask me to go on the date and I am a little upset just tell me you don't want too instead of lying. Anyways on sunday we hungout and went for drinks and it was actually fun, we went to his place and hungout. Then wednesday night we went out for supper, went hot tubbing and then watched a movie. The movie got a little intense and we made out and stuff. But I refused to have sex, but then later on we did have sex and I am so ashamed of myself. then last night I slept over and we didn't do anything, then the next morning his parents came over, i got locked basically in his room while he called me a taxi and then hid his parents so they couldn't see me. Then he shoved me out not good bye nothing. I shared a taxi with his friend, who was texting him the whole ride home. Then an hour later he finally texts me and all he said is "sorry, but have a merry christmas" like wtf. I never texted him back and then he texted me late tonight and asked if i was mad and how my christmas was going? So i just responded nicely so I could talk to him nicely but he never responded back to me. So I texted him on christmas just wishing him a merry christmas and he replied back the same thing. Well today he finally today I went on facebook and he started talking to me, and he asked how christmas was and I started saying how I got a trip to cuba and he said well I will come so I said go for it and how i asked my friends but none could come, but then he just said you should go and changed the subject to how he just found out his ex was cheating on him on the whole time and then quickly changed the subject again and said text me if you would like to hangout this week, and all I said was ya maybe, and he said okay bye. He just got out of a 4 year relationship. He is a nice guy, but I know he still likes his ex and I really like him and he is nice, he pulls the chair out for me and stuff. These are the jerk things he has done to me.So I really like this guy and we have only known each other a couple of weeks. He just got out of a 5 year relationship and I am only back for school and go back in a week. I texted him today saying he should come out and party tomorrow and he said he couldn't because he has to work tomorrow night. We just chatted about nothing and then said I probably won't see you cause I go home soon and he said you go home in a week so we have friday, and saturday. Then he said well I haven't shown a good side of me and I said no you haven't and he said he liked how I was honest, but just to understand. I told him that I feel like I should just leave him alone because he just got out of a relationship and I leave soon. He replied with well being around your hotness makes me feel better, but I felt very offended by that because I feel like I am just a girl that helps him get over his ex, but he thought it was nice. Then he said you must like me somewhat and I said why do you say that and he said some random things. So I said that doesn't mean anything. He then said oh k then nevermind so I said okay with a a winking face and he said I can tell you like me cause you winked, so I just said I don't know, because I'm scared to tell him cause he might not like me and don't want to scare him away, I was wating for what he had to say next to tell him. Well he never said anything back and now i'm quite sad :(. I don't know if he doesn't like me and ran or was mad I never told him I liked him.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Just make things a lot simpler for yourself and move on. It seems as though he has problems of his own and you should probably talk to him again when he has had a chance to sort himself out. I am also a little bothered that he kept making it clear that he was physically attracted to you, it did have a sort of inelegance to it and it leads me to believe that he is mostly interested in you because you look good. I find it rather odd that in an apology he would add "I didn't realize how pretty you were", as if his mistake was born from that fact. Just move on.
I hope that helps.
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