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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my husband for 15 years. We have 4 children together. I have put up with a lot of verbal abuse from him over the years. Of course There are a lot of good qualities about him such as a hard worker and good provider for the family. He shows he is a loving father but very short tempered. He has never hit our children. But when they act up he immediately calls me. Never the less I feel like a person on a downward spiral. Things are really started to affect me emotionally. I have reached out to him countless times and he is very cold. I drink when he is home because I cant handle being around him. I dont when it is me and the kids. I am considering asking for a seperation. We have lived with my father for 10 years. My children have a stable home. This marraige is not stable though. I am wanting more companionship than this, am I thinking crazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): The first thing to consider is asking yourself if he is aware that you are having these feelings. I'm sure he would be surprised if you told him you want to separate when he had no idea you were feeling this way about him and the relationship in the first place. It sounds to me that you are in a depression and that your unfulfilled relationship is making it worse. I would recommend that you first go see a therapist for yourself so that you can find happiness again, and then approach your husband and ask that you take couples therapy.
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