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writes:i am 19 years old and i have been with this 31 year old woman for 8 months. she got 4 kids n she is married. but since we been together its been the best time of my life and hers even her family thinks that im the best person for her. she has no idea that im 19 she thinks im 24. she means the world to me and she told me she wanted to be with me forever but now she wants to leave me cause she said she dont wanna hurt me. i dont know what to do i tried to talk but its not working its killing me inside cause this woman is my whole world. please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Because playing with a "married women" never a good outcome. You have not rights to her, her husband does, and as far as her children. You say you love her and want her. I wonder if she's willing to give up her children for you. Some places, a women commits adultery she'd better have some darn good reasons to keep custody of the children if their father believes he can care for them in a higher moral setting.
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reader, ced +, writes (24 October 2007):
ced is verified as being by the original poster of the question it was really nice for u guys to help me out. but i dont know what to do cause this woman was the best thing that ever happened to me, i cant sleep, cant eat, alll i could dod is break down and cry. her husband did know about me he even saw me with her but he just looked at me. she was the apple of my eye. i treated her like a queen i cooked for her, rubbed her with lotion every night, washed her hair, and sometimes even give her a bath. i just dont know why she doing this and when i ask she tells me that shes too much for me and she doesnt wanna screw up my life. but im the one that chose her out of all cause somehow shes one of a kind and i wouldnt wanna be with nobody else but her. shes killing me slowly but surely.
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reader, ced +, writes (24 October 2007):
ced is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit was reaaly nice of you guys to help me out. ill take it all to thinking and let you all know what happens
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (24 October 2007):
There are two ways this relationship can go - the way she has chosen to finish it or the other way.
The other way is for her to leave her husband for you and move into your place with her four children - I am assuming of course that you have a rather large property that you are presently living in that not only houses you but could easily house an extra five people. I would also assume that you have a rather large regular income that would be able to support your new instant family too. After all she would probably assume this for you are 24 in her eyes aren't you? -
Whilst being a lot of fun this relationship has probably been good for you while it lasted but face facts it has run it's course and you have gotten away with it scot free, after all the husband has not found out about it and has not come over to see you to punch your lights out so from where I am standing you are ahead - well ahead and I suggest you quit whilst you are still in this very, very fortunate position.
I know it sounds hard but get over it and move on. You have jhst gotten through a very pleasant chapter of your life where you have constantly had your cake and eaten it and gotten away with it but now it is time to move on.
Now count and thank your lucky stars that this has not ended a whole lot worse than it could have done.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 October 2007):
So, she's all ready married, doesn't know how old you are, has children. So you're deceiving her with your age, she's deceiving her husband and her children. Do you see anything at all wrong with this picture?
Go find someone who's not committed, who's not deceiving others. The problem also with being with her, if she left her husband for you it wouldn't be long before she decided to add a bit of variety to her sex life again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): She just may be someone elses whole world, and you stepped into her life for your wants and needs, what about other's wants and needs? Guess you don't give a damned about them. So you got burned, tough Sh-t, so live with it is all that I have to say.
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reader, gmapeaches +, writes (24 October 2007):
 Oh sweetie.. i am all about love.. but first of all lies have no place in love.. she is going to feel betrayed when you tell her the truth about your age.. and there is a reason why you felt you had to lie.. if she knew your age she would not have gotten involved. you want to take on four kids at 19? Its a sweet gesture, and you are a good man for being willing.. but thats a huge thing.. first of all tell her the truth and what will be will be.. good luck...
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