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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:well I got a yes last week to a run with this girl who I like a lot, she said the date was to be determined but she did say yes for this week meaning monday through friday because we don't have school on the weekends. Anyway I posted a thing saying if I should just tell her she doesn't have to run with me so I don't have to be denied or brought to think she would actually do it. Tomorrow is the last day and she hasn't mentioned anything about running and I haven't wanted to bother her but I am getting this one mile time recored for possibly running Cross Country next year. she already runs Cross Country so she thinks she will win but I am stubborn and that causes me to pretty much never quit even if its an unfair challenge such as this one. She is also the girls teams best runner so I have my work cut out for me. The last post got a reply saying you should hold her to her word and trust that she meant it when she said she will run with me. I am making this post tonight so if I ask her about it tomorrow I will know how to react with the help of suggestions.I will ask her if she would like to run today (meaning tomorrow) and I hope she will say sure. I don't have much hope though so I assume she will say no. I will remain positive to better my chances. If She says know than I waisted the whole week telling the coach tomorrow I will run and when it wasn't tomorrow oh well it will be the next day I promise. So my question is, If I ask her tomorrow and she says "no" or oh sorry I can't; she can't use the homework excuse either its a friday and she knew about this for over a week how should I react? I am obviously not going to go into "Roid Rage" and flip a table and break a window or something but the whole point of running with her is I thought it would help me to run a faster time and I could get to spend time with her cause I do care about her. I was thinking about just saying well (insert name) I just wanted to spend some time with you and get to know you a little better. or I was hoping by running with you I would get a faster one mile time I wish you would have gone. - Those two were the nice ones Here are the ones I would probably want to say or feel like saying. (Insert name) you know you didn't have to say yes you could have just said know so you wouldn't have to blow me off (name) I am a big boy I can handle rejection. you kinda messed up things for me this week so thats kinda a bitch move like I didn't ask you to run with me I just asked if you would like to you easily could have said know and not have waisted my time. I want to show her for once that Im not going to be the nice guy push over I don't need another "friend" cause last time I checked a friend would be honest and not blow you off and actually spend time with you chillin or what ever. So Basically What should I do, just pretend like its no big deal or tell her the way I actually feel (disappointed and let down) or just tell her off and show some assertiveness? Thanks for the help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): If she says no then you should tell her that you feel disappointed but it`s ok because you are a big boy and can take care of yourself. Tell her how you feel about it without being a jerk. I can understand you being angery but something could have came up that she had to attend to and didn`t know about yet.
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