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writes:Hi. I am currently 41weeeks preganant and completely MISRABLE. I cry every single day, i am in pain, fat, i can barely walk or even stand up, tired, bored, uncomfy, the list is endless! It's got to the point now where i just want to get back to being me. Even feeling her moves annoys me now because i am fed up of thinking is this it? Am i going into labour? Ive been pretty happy up until now but i have had enough. Im terrified as an induction date is looming as i so DESPERATELY want a water birth. I hate what this baby is putting me through and i cant cope any longer! I'm terrified i wont love her when shes born because of feeling like this and that i will resent her. Please tell me this is normal or tell me how i can cope. I seriously don't know what to do anymore! My boyfriend keeps saying its only a week maximum left but i cant go that far, ive given up 2weeks ago!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013):
I can relate ... At 41 weeks I was in agony I had genastational diabetes and pre eclampsia so I was cheerful not . I also ended up with a kidney infection and could have cried daily if not for my other children in the house.. I too couldn't wait until the baby was born .. But that didn't mean I didn't love her We had a little girl. I just wanted the situation to be over with..
As do you ... You have inner strength that what has brought you through 41 weeks, you are now at the last hurdle waiting for the gallop home to bring this amazing life that you created into this world ..
Congratulations in advance .. And try I know it's hard, to relax and your body will do most of the work for you ., sending hugs x
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Don't worry about the predicted weight by the scan, mostly those are wrong. I work in maternity so I know that the weight is usually inaccurate. Bigger babies tend to be easier to birth than little ones ( I had a 6lb and an 8lb baby and the bigger one was so much easier!!)
Everything you are feeling is normal, the last few weeks of pregnancy are terrible but all those negative feelings you are having will dissapear when your baby arrives.
Get your boyfriend to pamper you, lots of foot massages and shoulder rubs, nice dinners, hugs and cuddles, rest as much as you can, even if you cannot sleep and just be patient with yourself.
Sex is also an excellent way to induce labour as the hormone in sperm is the same as the prostin gel they put on your cervix to start you off. You must have been given an induction date by now and your midwife might offer you a sweep to stimulate hormones on the cervix to help you into labour.
I know your feeling miserable sweetheart but it will soon be over with and I really hope you get your waterbirth as they are wonderful...but even if you don't, it can still be a positive experience and the result is the same.
We've had women in our clinics cussing and crying and totally distraught at the end of pregnancy but when you see them a day or two later after baby arrives, all is well and they are happy mums.
It's all normal.
As for your baby's movements, keep an eye on them (they will be more squirms and sqiggles because the baby has less room), if they slow down or you are worried, phone the hospital, also if you have any loss down below or bleeding...give them a call for advice.
hugs xxx
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (1 April 2013):
 Oh..you poor sweetie! Of course you are miserable! They consider 40 weeks full term, so girl..you are overdue! I've been pregnant twice and the last month of each pregnancy was absolutely nerve wracking. Every little twinge you wonder..is this is? I want it to be it..but then you're kind of scared too...You are SOOOOO normal sweets. You can't sleep,you can't get comfortable..lets face it..you jusat feel "YUK"!!! Just remember you're in the home stretch now...you're just about ready to touch the finish line..hang on just a little longer.
And don't worry..once labor starts you'll get excited and be very anxious to hold that sweet little baby in your arms. You'll forget all the discomfort and pain! I promise!
Ask boyfriend to give you back rubs, foot massages, play relaxing music, and daydream about that beautiful baby that's coming..You'll be just fine ok? Let us know how everything goes ok? Good luck sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :) also my baby was weighed at 8lb 13 at 39weeks so I'm also terrified of giving birth to a huge baby as there could be complications! They are refusing to induce me until 42weeks. I've tried EVERYTHING to bring on labour and nothing has worked :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 April 2013):
 41 weeks.. honey you are ready to pop.
you know I've heard that sex can bring on labor maybe your boyfriend can help....
and yes you are NORMAL to feel this way... I never made it to even 40 weeks with either of mine...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 April 2013):
 41 weeks! Poor you! Yes, it's pretty "normal" to want it OVER and DONE with around week 35, and you have lasted another 6 weeks! So no wonder.
Have you talked to your doctor about getting induced? 41 week usually means a big baby. The longer (for the most part) she stays in there the better it is for her.
And have no fear, once you hold the little one in your arms the pain and worries will go away. All mos have some sense of dread and worries about not being able to do it, but.. most of us do just fine and SO will you!
Chin up Momma!
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