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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Ok like if your gonna do it in that posistion, you wanna just kinda move with the flow just a little. Don't do the Soulja Boy but just move with it. Try not to be worried bout it. You and the person your with need to just learn what you two like best. Hope that helps!! =)!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2007): Im very nervous about my first time...im doing it with a older guy about 5 years older and very expertenced.....I just can't stop freakin out! Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): i'm not sure what position he would won't me to go in he want me to get on top of him but i don't know i think that he should get on top and guide me through it. but more likely he's going to guide me i'm just scared of if it hurt or what? i heard it feels like you are n heaven and i heard that it is painful he told me it is not and i just don't know which one but i guess i'm just gooing to have to see.
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reader, Auntie Amber :)  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 baby just go with the flow......the first time is always the svaryest but once hes in it will all go 2 plan.........if u feel uncomfortable then say ur not ready! dont let him presure u into it !! and use protection!!! good luck enjoy it!!xx aunty amber xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): "my ex-boyfriend and i had sex a couple of months ago for the first time. we used protection and it barely even went in more than an inch and was there for less than five seconds. He did even cum at all. now im 3 weeks late for my period and i dont know why. I have a hard time believing i could be pregnant but i guess it is a possibility. what are the chances that im pregnant?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2006): just move with him and act as if it is not ur first time
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): ok i am 14 and my girlfriend has asked me for sex and well i am not scared it just because it is first time and i don't no how to have sex well i do but it i have got a funny filling that some think is going to go wrong help plz????????/
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2006): ok if you dont know what to do this is it:he will grab you and you will just feel it when its right if you feel this is right slowwly work your bodies into comfortable posistions for you both!this will help relax you and make penetration very easy!once penetrated move your body up and down if you are on top!if on bottom his constant moving will put your body exactly where it should be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): think of it as french kissing you both have ta move your tougues so when you go to have sex just move the same way as he is just rap your arms around him and kiss and stuff it really dont mater the most you can do is fallow his steps and go on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): think of it as french kissing you both have ta move your tougues so when you go to have sex just move the same way as he is just rap your arms around him and kiss and stuff it really dont mater the most you can do is fallow his steps and go on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006): how should i start off?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2006): Think of it this way - what if he lay still and did nothing? I think that having sex for the 1st time give it a chance to find out what works 4 u instead of lying still - try to do a little something.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (21 July 2005):
 Everyone gets nervous before having sex, whether it's your first time ever or even a first time with someone new! It just has to feel right and you need a bit of confidence. Provided you are in a happy and comfortable relationship with the guy and feel ready to have sex, it's probably just a few nerves. This is totally understandable, this is a big step and not to be taken lightly!
Just relax and go with it. If you're both inexperienced, you'll be feeling the same. When a guy is on top, you can move with him or you may just want to stay still. See what feels right at the time. You never know, you might get really into it once you get going! Most girls find it just happens, their instincts tell them what to do once they're in the situation.
Just remember, make sure you trust the guy won't hurt you emotionally or physically before giving him one of the most special things a girl has: her virginity. As long as you have trust, anything is possible. I wish you all the best and hope it's mind-blowing! ;)
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reader, Courts +, writes (11 July 2005):
like all great things your first time requires you to take your time and relax. relaxing is a major issue because if you are anxious your muscles in and around your vagina becomes tense and this makes penetration very difficult for your partner. also because you are tense your vagina will be very dry making penetration almost impossibe and painfulnow dont worry. explain to your partner its your first time and he should go slow. if you tense start with a bit of foreplay. a great way for you to understand this is maybe the two of you can watch a soft porn video together. not only will you get an idea of what to do but this will take your mind off things and make you relax but at the same time stimulate you, making penetration easy. just remember to relax and go slow. ps just remember protection first. no glove means no love.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (7 July 2005):
 Take your time is the key. Dont worry about it.. do what comes natural at the time. The first time is always different anyway... your partner should be aware that its your first time and respect you and take things slow... when the time comes you will do what to do its just kind of instict.. maybe raise your legs a little if it comfortable for you... but remember once the first time is over you can go again and each time will get you slightly more confident, take your time and relax and you will be fine.
Take care
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (7 July 2005):
 Try not to worry. It's not a performance and you won't be given a grade. ;-)
Sex - I'm sure I've written innumerable times - is supposed to feel good and be fun. Otherwise why would people do it, right? So do what feels right for you. Most people who are enjoying sex tend to move with, or grind against, their partners, but there's nothing wrong with lying still, if that feels better for you.
Your reaction to sex is like an instinct, similar to arching your back when someone offers you a backscratch, so trust that you'll have a normal reaction.
Don't be nervous about making the right moves; it's no big deal. I'm more concerned that you seem to be rushing into a sexual relationship before you really know for sure that you want one.
Give some serious thought to not having sex at all yet, until it seems less intimidating. You don't have to have sex just because it's offered, you know. The way you turn it down is to say "No. I'm really not ready for that. I'm sorry". That should be all there is to it.
Hope that this puts your mind at ease.
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