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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and lately I have wanted to break up with her because I think it is just time. I really want to know which is the best way to do this without hurting her. I can't bear to see her hurt... please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): You must first question yourself as to why do you want to break up as you still care about her so much. Love passes through different phases and it could just be a low phase. I hope you do not regret the break up later.
However, if you are firmon your decision, tell her with just two of you. Be there with her till the time she is able to digest the shock and stops crying. However, you cannot reduce the hurt in anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2005): man just say 'that i still love and it is not work out between us and i just want to have a break from you for a while but i still wanna be mates'
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reader, Bowa +, writes (7 August 2005):
After two years you want to break up with her, ask yourself why? You must have wanted to be with her and loved her at one point? If you have asked this and you still want to end it then unfortunately there is no way to do this without hurting her, you need to be totally honest and you need to talk to her face to face, the worst way to end a long relationship is to walk away and only text the person or call the person telling them its over. You need to explian why and whats happening in your head, she will naturally try and convince you other wise but you must make sure that you listen to everything she has to say and how she feels aswell maybe you can work things out if not then you must be strong for her and you, then when the hurting stops she will respect you for being so honest and helpful.
Hope this helps X
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reader, ex-girlfriendsdilemma +, writes (10 July 2005):
Hurt is part of every relationship. I'm sure your girlfriend would rather prefer that you be honest with her and set your feelings straight with her. She may even be more hurt once she knew you were just going on to spare her feelings. Be a man and face your fears. You may even earn your gf's gratitude by being honest. Goodluck!
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (7 July 2005):
When 2 people care about each other, but break up, there is absolutely NO WAY to avoid hurt...it's a fact of life.
But take comfort in knowing that Time Heals Wounds.
The longer you stay on the fence, the harder it will be to break up with her.
Set a DAY to tell her...a time when you know she will be home...perhaps on a Friday nite, so she will have time to cry & grieve for the weekend & head back to work on Monday, otherwise it will be a very long week for her !
Be as gentle as you can be...but also firm & honest.
If you are really SOLID on your decision to break up with her, then when you do it...DO NOT CALL her for at least a few months...give her time to start the healing process and give yourself time too.
All the best,
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 July 2005):
 Unless she knows there is a problem it will come as a shock. I really dont think there is ever an easy way to end a relationship... she is going to be hurt if you end it but you have to let her know why... if you cant bear to see her hurt why is that you want to end the relationship ? Perhaps you need to sit and discuss this together first she may be feeling the same way ? maybe see if the issues you think you have can be resolved.. talk it through and see what happens,,, she may feel the same way, but at least have a chat and see if things can be put right and at least that way if things dont work she will have been given a shot to put thigns right... do talk to her and see if thigns can pan out... just be honest with her.. in the long run its the best way.
Take care x
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