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reader, mrg123  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 Hmmmm have had a look at your other post. Not really qualified to advise on the issue there but is there any trust left in the relationship? I think that is the major problem....
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reader, teardrop3 +, writes (21 April 2011):
teardrop3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo we didn't but he was here this morning for a bit,at first it was polite chat then we got speking about an incident that happened that has affected us also. Not sure if you can click on my name to see my latest post which you will see what it is about x
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (21 April 2011):
Oh dear :( thats not good at all. Did you get time to speak properly about anything even?
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reader, teardrop3 +, writes (20 April 2011):
teardrop3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just left ten mins ago after arriving 5 mins before that then his daughter phoned to say that she wanted a lift home!!! So that was that and it was his birthday today!!
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (20 April 2011):
Well good luck whatever you decide....let us know how it goes!
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reader, teardrop3 +, writes (20 April 2011):
teardrop3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he is coming over tonight and I don't know what my decision is yet or what I am going to do so see how it goes x
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (20 April 2011):
Your quite welcome. The key thing is not to take this out on yourself. Easier said than done, I know especially given what you have gone through which is horrific. You have certainly reinforced my view that the last thing you need is to carry on with this guy who will only make you feel worse. Time needs to be spent on healing yourself which is probably going to be a long process but worthwhile in the end. Your welcome.Good luck and take care :)x
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reader, teardrop3 +, writes (20 April 2011):
teardrop3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply. Yes I am very insecure due to my marriage of 14 years was partly filled with drink,verbal,physical and mental abuse. Then I had another relationship..we got engaged but with him he put me down all the time especially the way I spoke,never really said my name but if he wanted me he always shouted "Oi" again he was another one for online women....maybe my bad luck but hey ho lol.Thanks again x
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (20 April 2011):
He's only interested in you because he loves you??? Okay, so thats a new one. Problem with this line of reasoning is that doing these things means he *doesnt* love you at all. I don't think this is going to work to be honest, I dont trust him not to go back to his old ways and neither should you. What you have to ask yourself is how far would have gone had he not been caught?
Your a very insecure as well so I would be highly surprised if you could trust him again and *even if* he did genuinely change his ways this thought would always be nagging away at the back of your mind. I think its time to let this one go to be honest. Sorry but I just dont see this working and I think you know that deep down. Good luck and take care.
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