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writes:The place I work at part-time has clients that are addicts. I'm not a counselor, and I don't talk to them about their problems or issues or anything, but even with my job I have to remember my boundaries, at least for a certain length of time. Anyway, I was attracted to this one guy for some reason, and honestly I can't explain how or why, but it just happened. Either way, I went about my business, and didn't think about it much honestly. Other than a few comments that he said to me, we didn't say much to each other for a month at least. Then one day, I had to go for a walk with some of the people there, and he was one of them. We ended talking, and then we sat on the ground in the park and talked, and one of the girls joined us at one point too. We didn't talk about anything important or even interesting, just stupid stuff. On the way back, he thanked me for the conversation, and said he hoped we could do it again sometime, if he was lucky. He was sort of joking, sort of not. After that day, he would say hi to me, and ask me how I was, and I would do the same, but other than that, nothing much happened. I started to freak out, because I realized I was starting to have feelings for this guy, and I was like why me. Then one day, he had to copy something, and while we were there he kept looking at me, and I could tell something was going to happen, so my heart started racing, and I was freaking out. He goes to me, "Would it be inappropriate to ask you if you had a boyfriend?" and I shook my head yes. Then he goes "Oh, okay, I'm sorry." and we preceded to use the copier, and he changed the subject. After that, I had trouble functioning, I felt ill all the time, and I just kept thinking about this guy. I never felt wrong for saying it was inappropriate or anything, because it was, and I had too, but I felt so bad.So after that happened, we still said hi to each other sometimes. Then one day he was gone, because of something stupid that happened with this one guy there. I'm most likely never going to see him again. It hurts really badly, I can't even explain. I think I fell in love with this guy somehow. It's really weird, but it was like when we looked at each other or something, it's like it just said everything. It sounds stupid, but I don't think it was. I always did what I was supposed to do, which was nothing, and it kills me. If somehow we do see each other or talk again, which is very unlikely, I don't know what I would do. I guess I just try to get over it? Even though I don't know when that's going to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I don't know, I just know that I still feel really terrible, and sad. I hope it gets better, because it's making me depressed.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 You did the right thing, and handled yourself well. You can't say that you fell in love with the guy, because you didn't get to know him. You may have liked the look of him, had some physical chemistry, but love, no. You can only love someone that you have gotten to know. It won't take you long to get over it, if you decide to stop thinking about him.
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