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writes:There's a girl who i like. She's stunning beyond words, even a blind man would agree. She flirts with me all time and is more than comfortable with me touching her anywhere. I seriously thought that she liked me and I told her i liked her and she said that we're just friends which i'm ok with, but then two days later she starts grinding on me which leaves me confused. (Although tbh we were both drunk and in a club when i told her so maybe that's why she said no).So what's her problem? I've texted her to ask when she's coming back to school and she never repliedAnyway she came back to school and i saw her from my window and my heart just sank. She looked so beautiful and i feel as if i can never have her.I always talk to her and maintain intense eye contact.Isn't that what girls want? Someone that actually cares about them?That's all i ever hear them complaining about how men don't listen to them.Also during christmas i was texting her and she took maybe 30mins to replyIs she just playing me?I told her i liked her when drunk and she said we're just friends.What should i say to her next time i see her?It will probably be on a night out so we're gonna be drunk probably and it will be my first time seeing her in about 6 weeks.I should mention that we have exams maybe that's why she hasn't been in contact.Either way i can't stop thinking about her.We're both in university, she's 18 and i'm 19.Am i maybe just reading a little too much into this?HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK. We're friends. I understand. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): What should i say to her next time i see her?" Nothing YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS she's told you that over and over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): If she was drunk in a club when she told you she just liked you as a friend she is DEFINITELY telling you the truth, alcohol makes you tell the truth and plus if she was drunk and liked you it would have given her the courage to go for it. Don't delude yourself...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Dude.. Well she likes you as a friend for 100%. She not playing you or anything.
Well the thing you need to do now is to show her a different side of you, seduce her, flirt back. There is a lot of stuff how you can do. Like ask her friends about her interests or what kinda guys she attracted to.
For now you are just a friend she could inocently flirt with. Nothing more. She maybe doesn't want a relationship now.
I mean you can fight for her or let her be, because right now you she has no actual interest in you
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help !
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 Reading way too much into this.
Most 18 y.o. girls flirt. If the are pretty, even more.
Perhaps not to the point of grinding against you, but she was drunk that time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): "So what's her problem?" She doesn't have a problem, she's just comfortable enough around you to be physically affectionate. It means nothing, she's just a natural flirt and naturally affectionate.
"Is she just playing me?" Not at all, she told you exactly where you stand with her, you're just friends that's it. She's not leading you on or giving you signs, she told you straight up. If you want to carry on believing you have a chance when she told you don't that's your problem not hers. You should listen to what she said.
"What should i say to her next time i see her?" Nothing YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS she's told you that over and over.
"Am i maybe just reading a little too much into this?" Just friends, that's what she said just friends. Some people are natural flirts, they like to get affectionate, they like to be touchy feely but they by no means, mean that as a sign that they're interested. If she wants to grind while drunk it just means she likes to get risque but again she said "just friends" when a woman says that she means it.
"Although tbh we were both drunk and in a club when i told her so maybe that's why she said no" Actually it works the other way around, people are more open to getting with each other when they're drunk, drink makes people loose not the other way around, so if she says that even while drunk then that means that even drunk she has no interest in you.
How can you not see all this? She couldn't make this more clear to you. She is not interested in you at all, she's not even interested in you while drunk.
Stop being confused. Touching, grinding, dancing is all a bit of fun to her not signs of interest because she told you plainly she doesn't like you back.
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reader, MandiPandi +, writes (21 January 2011):
 When I said should I ment shouldn't be drinking -_-
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reader, MandiPandi +, writes (21 January 2011):
She may just like the attion form you. Some time really attractive people abuse there looks haha. But she and you sound kinda shallow. I mean if you only like her for looks and she just wants the attion....? It doesn't sound like a good match. All it sounds like you do is go out for drinks. Try something else! Besides why waste your life chasing after someone who only wants to be friends. Well any way talk to her about it when you are both SOBER. God, you should be drinking anyway
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