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writes:My friend is going through a hard break up and was really sad in front of me. They started to cry and started to talk about there relationship. At first I told them "its okay you can cry" and they felt bad for crying in front of me. So I told them, "hey look we are going out tonight, going to have a blast and have a ton of fun".Then the night went on, we joked around and different things. But I was worried that I came off a bit strong on the 'no crying' thing and 'lets go out and have fun'. I know this person well, and well I know that they usually don't cry unless they are really hurt. Was I insensitive towards there emotions? Or did I do the right thing to help them out with their break up / rough patch in life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): No you did what you were comfortable with, it was a good idea, you took her out and you two had fun without any tears and dealing with the emotions . You did the right thing, doesn't sound like you'd have been comfortable listening to your friend crying for much longer. And seeing that you joked around and had a laugh, it means that you managed to cheer them up in a bad situation so well done.
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 The fact that you have bothered to post that you are worried about this shows what a nice person you are and a good friend. You did just the right thing. Telling people to stop crying is good because it often makes them sit up and pull themselves together a bit and not wallow in things. Well done you.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (21 January 2011):
 There's nothing wrong with taking your friends out to get their mind off things. The fact that you're even posting this question because you're concerned you didn't do the right thing shows that you're clearly a very good friend :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 January 2011):
 I think you did the right thing, just tell them that crying is ok as well :) But cheering someone up is definitely showing that you care a lot!
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