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writes:my friend is a bit strange, she dosen't really seem to grasp the concept that other people have feelings, there-fore she is constantly putting me and my other friend down. she dosen't like me having other friends and she wants me to be with her all the time.she has moved schools and we've drifted apart (apart from the odd phone call to force herself to my house)but now her schools badly damaged and she is moving back to where i go. i really don't want her hanging around with me, i would tell her to stop but her mother would come in to school and yell at me.please can someone help me.how do i get rid of her??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your suggestions, my other friends have relized and are going to help me talk to her and tell her how I feel.
Im sad to say though that her mother is a wee bit strange, she has come in to my school before and yelled at my best friend, then at other people. she even scared somebody so much they had to go home. The teachers are angry at her behaviour and are thinking of banning her from the school.
I have had a talk with my teacher and she said she will try to get the 'bully friend' in a different class when she come into school
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I know you're getting to be a little old for this, but maybe you can have your mom talk to her mom so then you won't get 'yelled at' for not being friends with her, which is ridiculous to begin with.
this girl is definitely insecure, which is why she wants to be your only friend. honestly, just ignore her and stick with the friends you have. when she tries to say she's coming over to your house after school, say no or she's not welcome, or you're uncomfortable with it, something so she realizes she can't be a part of your life anymore. Don't be passive about it, stick up for what you feel; if the mom tries to involve herself in it, say you don't want to be bullied by her OR her daughter!
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reader, Auntie Mel  +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I'm sorry to say the only true way to deal with this is to tell her how you and your other friends feel. Make sure you tell her as nicely as you can and try your best not to hurt her feelings. Firstly I would ask her to stop being mean to you and putting you down, let her know you are quite offended by it. Then I would try and see if she changes at all. Try your hardest to cope with her for it is a horrible feeling to feel left out and stopping hanging out with her will make her feel bad. To help her stop putting you down point it out to her so she knows where she is making mistakes.Only if you think it's completely necessary to stop hanging out with her have another talk with her but this time say your so offended you would like to stop hanging out with her. This part could really hurt her feelings so try to be as nice as possible and remind her that you still want to be her friend but you would like a bit of space sometimes. I know your scared of her mum coming into school but Im sure she wouldn't shout at you she would more than likely go to the teachers. If the teachers talk to you about this just explain to them you don't like the way she is treating you. If her mother does shout at you try and mannerly explain your reasoning to her inform your Parent/Guardian about it. It could be a lot better if you got a couple more friends who agree with you to come with you when you tell her so she knows it isn't just you and your not picking on her. If she knows more people think the same thing she may change her ways. But don't take too may for she may feel like your ganging up on her. I would not suggest trying to avoid her for if she found out you were purposely doing this, it would hurt her a lot more for she would think you have been lying to her.Good Luck but remember she has feelings too xx
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