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writes: I am a 16 year old girl with a 20 year old boyfriend. but i have recently met a 16 year old guy that says he knows i am the one and that he loves me even though he has never met me. my boyfriend has cheated on me before and we broke up for about a month or so and then got back together. I am trying to decide wether i should stay with my 20 year old boyfriend or go out with the 16 year old who says he loves me. but im not sure because i love my boyfriend and we have worked hard to get where we are now. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): I surely do not think that you should leave your bf for this guy whom you have not met yet. Think about it, he knows nothing about you, so how can he love you? Living with a person and accepting each other's differences would be the basis of a relationship. When you have not even seen each other yet, it probably would not mean that it's love. The love which the 16-yr old has on you would probably not last at all. I have been through a online relationship. We were very close online but never met. When we started hanging out with each other, we saw too many difference. The distance started due to the differences between him & me. Even though your bf has cheated on you once, you accepted him back, meaning you should have forgiven him with all your heart. It wouldn't make sense if you are back together with him for name-sake, not because of the love you have for each other.
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (10 January 2006):
Er! you cant love someone until youhave spent 24/7 in each other's company for at least 6 months and then there is no guarantee that it will be deep and lasting love.Enjoy the 16 year old's attentions but if you have worked hard to make your problematic relationship work out then why give it all up for something that will fizzle out the moment you meet up.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (10 January 2006):
 Are you happy in the relationship? Do you trust your b/f? If the answer to both these questions is yes then the answer to the question posed by this 16 y/o is obviously no. If the answer to either is no then the answer is maybe. To say he knows you are the one is a sweeping statement but may not be untrue. Hope that helped.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (10 January 2006):
 I seriously think you should take some time out for yourself. Ask yourself what you want. Have you been able to forgive your boyfriend for cheating? It doesn't sound like you have, if you are thinking of being with some guy whom you have never even met. I am assuming you met this other guy online and trust me it can be deceiving. If you love your boyfriend, it sounds like you have already made up your mind what you want to do. You may be having second thoughts, so again my advice would be to take some time out and decide if you really want to stay in your current relationship.
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (10 January 2006):
Well its hard to love someone if you havn't met but anythings possible and love conquers all. you say you broke up with your current boyfriend because he cheated on you, if the relationship didnt work before hand, the second time rarely works out. meet up with this 16 year old and see what hes like, see if he seems trustworthy. don't make a decision until you've met the other guy but i would leave the guy your with anyway if hes already cheated on you. your 16, go out, have fun!!!! your only sweet 16 once! but remember meet the other guy before ANYTHING!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): Firstly, start off by saying this. He loves me even though he has never met me! Say it again. By now you should be seeing what it is that I'm seeing. How is it possible for someone to love a person without ever meeting him or her? Yeah you can say well I love Elvis Presley, Yes you can but to say you truly love him without ever meeting him, do I have to say more? Secondly, if you boyfriend cheated on you( Which that should be enough for you to walk away) and you guys decided to try and make it work why are you getting involved with someone else? That would make you no different then him. What I think you should do is ask yourself what it is you really want and go from there. It appears to me that your undecided on what it is you really want. If you don't have an idea of what it is step back and take a break from the dating/relationship scene.
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