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writes:Hello Right!Im 16 and there is guy who 19 and I think im falling in love with him. But the problem is that when ever I go round to the house, out from the blue I get really shy and don't talk or when my mum says were going there I get Butterflies all of a sudden. I don't know why cause im a loud person. I really want to try talking to him! but I don't know how? I really need some advise!Thanks
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reader, Auntie Mel +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Everyone gets a little shy at times, I have lost so many possibilties of relationships because of being shy and only got into the one im in now because of my friends encouragement. Its important that you try to over come theese fears, because he is a little older than you he may not want to make the first move toward a relationship incase you think he is too old. Dont hold back, always be your lovley confident self arround him, if you two get together you want to start your relationship on who you really are dont you. Too boost your confidence make sure your wearing something you feel comfertuble in and something you think you look good in, having pride in the way you look can make you feel 10x more confident. My advice would to be to start a conversation, have a look into what he is intrested in and spend a little time learning a little more about that so you can relate to his stories, ask lots of open questions, Guys usually love to talk about themselves. Just keep the conversations flowing try and get into a nice friendship with this guy and maybe one day you can ask him if he likes you and it may lead to a relationship if it doesnt stay as friends, it would be a shame to loose him.
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (20 April 2011):
Why not relax and let the guy make the first move. This young guy of 19 may not want to get involved with someone 16. Reason #1: say you do date and become sexually involved, you are underage. This means he could go to jail. Reason #2: you two haven't much in common since are still in high school with two years before you graduate. Whereas, he is either in college or has a a job. But, in my opinion, a 19-yr old is just more mature than a gal of 16. Put this energy into your studies and get the best grades you can.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Funny how even the most confident people can get shy. Ok so you like him and this is why you are getting nervous and butterflies. You just need to practice what you would like to say to him so that you build your confidence up. Yes this might sound silly but stand in front of a mirror and play out a conversation with him. The more practice you do the more confident you get.
You just need to realise that he is the same as everyone else and he is not going to judge you just because you like him. In fact if you keep going quiet then my guess is he will probably click that you have a crush on him. Just start by basic conversation asking him how he is, how his day was, has he any plans for the weekend. Soon you will be talking in no time. Goodluck.
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