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writes: I am only 18 and I have been with the same guy for 2 years. Things are now getting boring, we have nothing in common and our sex life is non exsistant. I really like another guy and want to get to know him better. Do I try and make things work with my currant boyfriend or leave him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): Sometimes people could not let go of the other if they dont have enough guts to do it. If you are one of them, admit that you may have few fears which impede you from saying goodbye. Identify your fears such as fear of losing someone or fear of hurting someone. If you clearly know the kind of fear you have, you'll have a greater chance to get a better letting-go explanations and reasons to be told to your partner when that moment comes.How's that? If the mind is relaxed and free from fears, you will understand further why you are doing this (saying goodbye) for your own sake and for his as well. Less or no fear at all results in clear intentions delivered. BUT before you make up your mind on this, make sure that you get lots of meditations and prayers to give you courage and lead you to good and unselfish decisions. Why? It is because your relationship seems to be really important to you per your statement and second thoughts of leaving him matter, and that's good to consider. Another piece of advice, don't focus too much on him. You are still young and so, meet up with your girlfriends more frequently than before. Boredom could have started "somewhere" like when you ceased being active with your social life and the only person you always see and think is him. Why not lift up your spirits by engaging to the activity I mentioned as one of the ways to fight dullness in your relationship? By doing so, you might miss him by being afar from him and busy with other things- and this could perhaps save the relationship at the same time.-by maruechant
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): One thing you dont want to do is hurt. But if u love another and want to leave him then do so in a mature fashion.
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reader, jessknot +, writes (21 June 2005):
I would let him go, you're young play the field, if you like other guys go for them. just think, if it's only been 2 years and you're bored there's not much hope, it only goes down hill the more years you add on. find someone exciting!
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reader, robinlovescena +, writes (21 June 2005):
 i think that you should talk to him. communication is the only way to go. he may even say the same thing. if it is getting dull, he is probably getting sick of it as well. anyways, i would go out with the other guy. he sounds interesting. try to make it work with him. but b-4 that, you must break it off with your boyfriend. i would tell him that you two act more like friends than anything. and friends will always be friends. if the two of you act like friends as your going out instead of acting like a true couple, then if you break up, there is a very big chance that you will be friends then. talk to him about and see how it goes. good luck~Robin~aka advice gurl
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (21 June 2005):
Communicatrix gave you some excellent advice !You are only 18 years old & have MUCH to learn about love and relationships.Treasure what you have learned from your current boyfriend, savour the wonderful memories of the past, but since you have become bored & are drifting apart, I believe it's time for you to move on.But before you get SERIOUS over someone else...give yourself time to enjoy your independance & freedom.Go out with your girlfriends...dance, flirt & have fun.There is NO RUSH to get into a committed relationship with someone else...Someday when you are READY...you will know.You will want to wake up to him every day of your life, you will yearn to have his babies & grow old with him.Until that day comes...slow down & celebrate being single !
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (21 June 2005):
 It sounds like there's not much holding you to your current relationship except a sense of obligation, which isn't a great reason to be in a relationship ever, much less at the tender age of 18.Look--you're young. You're supposed to want a lot of experiences at this age. In fact, this is the age to experiment, to get out and discover who you are and what you like and what you want to do with your life.If you really love your current boyfriend--even if you just care about him (which, after 2 years together, I hope you do)--I think you should talk seriously with him about where your head is at.Then, if you guys do decide to break it off, I'd suggest you spend some time alone, or at least some time outside of a serious, monogamous relationship. Date. Have fun. Go out with friends. Figure out what really rings your bell, both in AND out of bed. See what kind of people engageand inspire you in deep and meaningful ways, as well as the more transient, superficial ones.That way, when you are ready for a serious relationship, you've got a much better chance that it will grow richer with time, rather than duller.Good luck!
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reader, caroltina +, writes (20 June 2005):
you didn't mention being in love with your current boyfriend which says it all really,and also you said you have nothing in common which either means you never did or you have just grown apart and want different things now. don't waste your youth being with the wrong guy, you are still so young and unless you love your current boyfriend there is no reason to be with him...however, if you do really love him, then try talking to him and sort through the problems together.i think you have made up your mind already since you mentioned another guy, don't feel bad about it,you are only human like the rest of us..as long as you leave your current boyfriend before anything happens with the other guy then you are doing nothing wrong...breakups are a part of live..they happen to us all at some stage.
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reader, Dear Kelly +, writes (20 June 2005):
Do what you feel right and what feels best for you....you are still young, and only 18 and being in a boring relationship you have two choices find ways to make it more fun, or to get out and live a little, enjoy yourself and dont feel trapped and unhappy, you have plenty of time to find the 'right' one.The chances are if you aint happy then he aint either, so sit down and have a chat with him and try and make it a mutural split.
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