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*eoloverboy23
writes:I have an interesting question. Well, there was this sexy blonde girl who seems to have taken a like to me and I haven't known her name until yesterday. Here's the weird part about it: I dreamt about her having sex with me, even though I'm happily in love with my current girlfriend who lives in the Philippines. I had helped my girlfriend so she can get her visa, passport, and her plane ticket so she can come, and I hope so. However, I really don't understand as to why I was thinking about that cute blonde girl in the first place because the girl in my dreams looks exactly like her. So, do you think that I should be with the blonde girl or with my current girlfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Neoloverboy23 +, writes (3 July 2009):
Neoloverboy23 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, I really forgot to mention that my current girlfriend is just as sexy as her and it just seem so strange to me that I would even think about the blonde girl. You should see my myspace page and my girlfriend's photos, but I made them private so, hehe.. sorry.
All of your answers are great so I should really think about this really heard.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 to be honest she's just a "dream girl" therefore just a fantasy although she is real now she's just a fantasy for you.
i'd stick with your girlfriend i mean you say you love her and everything so why ruin something perfectly good for a fantasy?
and as sugar sugar says you only just found out her name so you just like her for her appearence and perhaps what she can do in your dream i mean you don't know anything about her she could be a really horrible shallow person.
and why give up a relationship for someone you barely know?
it's really not worth it.
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (3 July 2009):
Well you have got to concider the feelings of both women. You have no idea if the blonde likes you back. And why brake up with your gf for this girl you barely even know if you do that then your gf will be thinking what could have went wrong so I think you should stay with her and don't pass up on what could be the best desition yet. This ya girl, peace.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (3 July 2009):
 I think you should stick with your girlfriend...unless you have an all consuming desire to place a bomb in the middle of your loving relationship and blow it to pieces!!!Everyone fantasises about other people at times but it's not a basis for destroying what you have worked hard to build up with your girlfriend.You have several choices...1) Forget the blonde, put it down to an unrealistic fantasy and get on with your happy and loving relationship. This makes you a decent and mature guy worth being in love with!!2) Cheat on your girlfriend, see what you can get away with but risk losing it all for something that is highly likely NOT to work out. Destroying all trust between you and your girl and ending up alone. This makes you a complete jerk and a loser with no respect for yourself or women.3) Tell your girlfriend it's over BEFORE you start something with the blonde. Begin the new relationship and...who knows??? could be love? could be a complete waste of time?. This makes you a bit of a decent heartbreaker, but at least you were honest and didn't cheat.Think about what you value most.Aunty Em x
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reader, Deathly-Afraid +, writes (3 July 2009):
 To me it sounds like you have a case of puppy love. Every body has wet dreams about a different person they're with,this dosn't mean you love the person just means you had a dream about them. Stay with you're current girlfriend if you truley want to be with her. But if you're unsure I'd say do some self soul searching. close your eyes who's the first person you think about?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (3 July 2009):
You're basing this girl solely on her appearance. Your "dream girl" could have the personality of a wet mop. So before you decide to be with someone shouldn't you know them first?
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reader, laura585 +, writes (3 July 2009):
Well it could just be the fact that the sexy blonde girl is THERE and your current girlfriend is not. Follow your heart/intuition on this one. I wouldnt leave someone I love for someone who I dont even know. Dreams are not mystical crystal balls telling you the future- you dream about what you think about. I imagine you think about sex, and you think the blonde girl is attractive thus, you dream of sex with the blonde girl. I wouldnt ditch your girl for her, but its your choice.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (3 July 2009):
 The thing that surprises me most about this question is your age. You have just found out the name of this girl, you list nothing about any of the attributes she possesses other than her physical appearance and you are wondering whether you should leave your current girlfriend?Well, my answer is yes. Yes, you should leave your girlfriend. Whether you pursue this other girl after doing so is irrelevant, but your girlfriend deserves to be with someone who won't want to leave her every time he has a fantasy about a cute girl.
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