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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I called my husband's cell phone at a time when I knew he was on break to tell him a friend wanted to come over tonight and ask him what time he was getting off work. The manager of his shop where he works answered (a female) and she said "Brad's answering service" in a condescending voice, and I said who is this and she just repeated "Brad's answering service" and I said isn't he on break? And she said "one moment please" Then I heard her say to him "dude you got an 11:45 call" Cuz I called at 11:47 and he gets on his break at 11:45. Then the phone hung up. He called me back a min. later and he said he accudentally pushed the power button on his phone and it hung up, but I thought she hung up on me. Then he asked "did she answer my phone, I left it in the other room" then he started talking about something totally off the subject like nothing happened. I got upset and I was crying because I'm like what right does she think she has answering my husband's phone and being rude to me? He was on his break anyways. He told me that he left his phone in the "computer room" and went to another room to use the microwave and one of his co-workers was on the phone to a customer and the manager lady answered his phone (she told him) because it was ringing right next to where the guy was on the phone to a customer. In that case she should have just walked the phone over to my husband, not answered it. And since she answered it, she should have said something like "Brad's in the other room, hold on a second" Not have said what she said to me. He called me at his next break and I said something about this incident again and he said "I told you what happened" and I said well, if that IS what happened then you need to tell her that she had no right to answer your cell phone and be rude to your wife. Then he said well, I wasn't there so I don't know what she said to you. How am I supposed to take this? He told me before that she was in her 40's or 50's and was really ugly..but who knows. I am 26 so it's not like he's cheating me with a younger woman. How should I react when he gets home? Should I have him look for another job after this? Before he started working there, she called our home phone and I answered and said he wasn't home, so she said she wanted him to call her back about a job opportunity and I asked where was it located because he was getting calls from out of state at the time for job opportunities and her response was "I don't see how that is relevant" and I said because if it's far away he won't be interested in the job. And she said "what if I told you it pays $37.50 an hour, then would it matter?" She was totally rude to me. The job doesn't pay that much either, she was just saying that to make me feel stupid or something. SO I know she's a rude bitch but what can I do? I don't feel like I should have to put up with her meaness just b/c he works for her.
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 Calm yourself down, you take things too personally. toughen up a little. Sometimes we have to deal with rude people its part of life. No I don't think you should have your husband look for a new job. Just ignore her or be ultra polite to her next time you speak with her that way she will have nothing to come back at you with.
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reader, Ziggy Z +, writes (3 May 2008):
I think she is giving you the strongest hint possible not to call your husband at work. Is she a bitch...yes. Is she rude..yes. Is it fair..no.Perhaps you are a bit of a clingy type, always calling your husband at work? My wife calls me at work perhaps, and I mean perhaps, once a month and I call her perhaps 1 or 2 x per month. Most things are not that important that a call is needed. He is at work, he should call YOU on his lunch or similar if you want to talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): No, there is no other reason for me to think they have something but I asked advice somewhere else & a man said it sounds like he's cheating on you with a younger hotter female. So I thought I'd get that out there that she's older than me.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 You do have a point: the fact that she's your husband's boss doesn't mean she can be rude to you. Everyone deserves respect.
And it's also true that he should have stood for you and him. I know it's difficult to tell your boss something like "hey, don't you dare answer my phone again", but he should have. This is also a work problem: the boss thinks she can interfere the employee's personal life. And it's a call from the wife, no less.
Maybe he should indeed find himself another job.
However, I detect an undertone here. You seem to believe that they have something: "I am 26 so it's not like he's cheating me with a younger woman", you said. That is perhaps the real problem. You think that the boss is mean and rude because they have something. I couldn't say whether that's true. Would you like to expand on this?
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