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30-35,
*arren M
writes:Hi i am looking for advice about the situation i find myself in. I have recently been sleeping with a 22 year old woman {i am 17} and i have fell in love with her. It started off as a bit of fun but over time my feelings have changed. The problem is she has only just split with her boyfriend, and yesterday she discovered she is pregnant by him. She already has 1 child by him a boy of 18 months. The child is definatly his because of the amount of weeks she is gone.
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reader, Darren M +, writes (13 June 2007):
Darren M is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't lose my virginity to her.
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reader, GAMEchief  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 You need to break up with this girl. For starters (at least where I'm from), you're underage. You're much too young to know that you're in love and much two young to be raising two kids (that aren't even yours at that). Break up with her and move on. She's too old for a 17-year-old, and those kids will only burden your mind.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (12 June 2007):
 And when the second child comes along he will probably be on the sceen more. May I ask if you lost your virginity to this lady?
have you asked her how she feels about you?
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reader, Darren M +, writes (12 June 2007):
Darren M is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is not with the father but he is in touch and still see's the other child.
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reader, Aunty Sarah +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Darren, without sounding disrespectfull to you, how do you know you are in love? You seem young, how many relationships have you had? Feelings of love are strong and powerfull but as people grow older our wants and needs change, as we grow and experience life. I would hate for you to settle down with two kids before you have gone out into the world and truely lived your life.Somethimes our feelings change because we create a comfort zone around us. You like spending time with this girl, it is new and exciting and she is opening you up to new experiences that feel good and fun. A partner and the responsibility for two other lives, full time, is another dimension. Try and take some time out to think about what you want from your life and where you would like to see your self in 5 years time. Act with caution, if it goes wrong, its not just your life that will be turned up side down. If I was to be totally honest with you.......walk away......x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (12 June 2007):
If she has gone back to the father then cut ties and remember the good times. If she wants to be with you seriously then you need to think about being apart of 2 kids lives.
If it is just "fun" can it really continue while she is pregnant?
xxxxxx
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