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writes:I am 30 and have a 9 year old daughter. I was with her dad for 10 years. I was treated badly by him. It's been 5 years and I've been alone and feel ready to date. I meet a Lebonese man he's so hot. He lives in the same complex. He came over when my kid was away and we did'nt do much talking. I just kissed him and he was trying hard to have sex with me that night. A few days later he came over after not calling me at all. I was like "what the hell" I kept looking out the window to see if he was home and wondering why he was'nt calling during that few days. He say's he is getting divorced and does not want to make any trouble before the court date.I also found out she lives in the complex and is close with his mom. He says its over and he cant wait to be with me every night after the div. He hasn't even taken me out for so much as a 99cent burger. He works till 10pm every night. I keep thinking he will surprise me today with flowers or somthing. I had sex with him a few times. I told him I was all set with his bull. He came over last night and I lost it again. His sexy eyes drove me right on my back. Help I feel like a fool but cant stop wanting him. Is it my age and I'm peeking for sex and its been 5 years with none. send me email
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Oh sweetheart you don't deserve to be used and I am not convinced that this guy is not doing that.
OK all of us want to be loved one way or another but don't go back into something that you got out of with your daughter's father.
Don't be someone's meal ticket and don't give yourself so easily.
I know the guy might be gorgeous but so are you and you deserve to be treated well. OK so he works till 10pm but like you say a 99c burger or a cheap bunch of flowers is nothing to speak of.
This guy is getting it on a plate and the fact that he is promising you the earth until after the divorce and you let him have what he wants, have you ever just sat down and talked without the physical side of things.
Try and stop yourself next time he turns up unannounced, what if your 9 year old daughter happened to be around or asleep and woke up to find you two together? Does he time it around when he knows she is either asleep or away at all?
Seems to me that is getting his cake but not giving anything in return.
As a test, next time he turns up say you want to talk only and see if he sticks around and also if he comes back again afterwards.
I understand your need for physical affection but he could be doing this to not only you, please be careful sweetheart as you don't want to be hurt again.
You are worth so much more than a quickie when he feels like it. No contact and then wham bam thank you maam, not very nice, he could get that will a pro but he would have to pay for that. He gives you nothing, no trinkets or anything so he is getting it very cheap indeed.
Just because he lives nearby does not give him the right to treat you this way.
You need to get yourself out there but be careful and there are plenty of guys online who are genuinely looking for love, see who else is out there before settling for second best. Gorgeous eyes and sexy figure does not make for a lasting relationship.
If you just want him for sex and it suits you then fine, but I would be careful as I would never have unprotected sex with this guy and how would you feel if you got pregnant and you didn't see him for dust.
Just be careful and you could have any man you wanted.
The reason you have given yourself 5 yours on your own was because you were treated so badly previously so your aching for love should not be confused with being there to be used either.
Take care and keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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