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writes: I asked this before but it was never answered. This time I'll go more into detail, too. I like one of my friends (We're both freshman, I'm 15 (almost 16) and she's 14), she seems to be giving off the right signals that she likes me yet she says that she doesn't like me more than a friend. I sit with her every day at lunch and we talk to each other, we laugh and have even shared secrets that we haven't told our other friends. There's also a couple of problems: she's is very pretty but I am fat and ugly. Thankfully we're both intelligent so we can communicate on an intellctual basis. The other problem is that the "group" of friends we hang out with are a big problem. I would be embarrassed to tell her because then my friends would ridicule me (whether or not if she likes me) and I think that if she likes me that it would be the same for her.She also has my phone number from a school event last year and she gave me hers for a class that we have to have at leat one "study buddy." I don't know if I should call her and ask her and some friends to go do something together or not. I need some advice on what to do, can anyone help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Thanks for the advice, especially the texting thing. It might actually work, I'll have to try. As for eating better and excercising, I am. However, genetics has thrown me curve ball, I'll still be pretty un-handsome. Again, thanks for the advice, and I hope it works.
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reader, CRS698 +, writes (3 September 2006):
 Hi there, Why not wait for an opportunity to catch her on her own and ask her out, maybe during lunch. She might get scared if you just call out of the blue.
If she says ok thats great, if she says no then thats great too, you WILL find someone, if its not her then thats her loss. You like to communicate on an intellectual basis? well there are lots of girls who would love to be with someone like that, and also someone who cares enough to try and do the right thing.
If your other friends ridicule you then they're not good enough to be your friends.
I hope it works out for you.
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (3 September 2006):
 Boy and girl friendships have this problem all the time. If you don't do anything about it it's gonna drive you insane. you need to test the water a little with her, send he a text somethin simple like hey how r u, wot u up to? Don't panic if she doesn't respond immediately give it chance. hopefullt she'll text u back and you'll get talking. You have a bit more confidence in SMS so be a bit flirty with her, but don't push too much. see how things go. if it goes well suggest small intimate outings and go from there. if u don't get the responce you want then you haven't lost too much you'll still be friends and you'll have peace of mind knowing where you stand. i have a great best boy friend and its truly amazing to have some close who is of the opposite sex. good luck with your girl, and please don't worry about friends teasin - its what they're there for and you shouldn't feel ashamed of your feelings. hope this helps x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): Ask her out. Don't set yourself up for a yes or no answer -- because she might reject you, and being told no stings.
So say something like, "we should get together this week..." When she says "sure," ask what day she is available.
If she seems like she is too busy all of the time, she is giving you the brush off. Ask a different girl.
And if you think you are fat and ugly, well start working out, eat better, and dress a bit sharper. Get some confidence kid!
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