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writes: hi I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years and all of a sudden she won't let me touch her. I can't even kiss her without her sighing. Someone please tell me what I can do. I can't talk to her because I would'nt know how to put it. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 My friend you say you cant talk to her because you dont know how to put it, but if you dont talk to her, you are running the risk of making her very annoyed and agitated with your behaviour. Its not normal behaviour, something has gone wrong somewhere and the only way to find out what is the wrong is by talking. Dont just ask her "why dont you like me touching you" instead ask her how she is in general, ask her if she is happy etc. Good luck. xXx
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reader, maisy +, writes (4 September 2006):
At the moment touch is not working for her you need to work on showing her love other ways what is her love language you might need to cook a meal some cleaning, go for a bush walk talk to her find something tell her how cute she looks or say thanks for what she has been doing there is a book call love languages read it i think you need a balance of all of them gifts, words , work, touch, time togeter try and roll a few into one a hand written letter and a picnic lunch and lisen to her she will tell you what she needs
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): well from experience, i was with my ex for nearly 2 years and i got bored of him, i liked some other guy and my attention was more on him rather than my ex, i didnt like my ex touching me or kissing me much and i used to make up excuses not to see him, i jus wanted to break up with him. i dont want to sound harsh, but this might be the case with your gf, i could be wrong, but this is an option.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Perhaps you have done something that annoys her... some women expect you to know that you have done something wrong!
Yeah I know your not a mind reader, but I think you are going to have to ask her if you have done something to upset her and take it from there... Have you forgotten to do something that was important... Does she just think you are after sex and not just being affectionate... there could be lots of different reasons... But you are just going to have to ask her if things are okay. Maybe shes a little bored of routine and would like to do something fun and new, you will only know that by suggesting some new things... take her out and see if she feels any better. She could be feeling down that you guys dont do alot together anymore, ask her what shes feels like doing and is there anywhere she would like to go... There could be a reason that shes feeling abit down and is more kind off peed off that you havent asked whats up... just talk to her openly and honestly and ask her in a caring and honest way... something like " babe are you okay, you seem a bit down lately, can I do anything to hel ?", and then take it from there... hopefully its not you... but at least by starting the conversation you will get to find out whats going on...
Take care x x
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Hmm, thats odd! Sitting down and asking her what is wrong with cuddles all of a sudden is the smartest move, do't be angry or in her face about it just calm level tones no anger or hurt. Just talk to her. She may be getting slightly boreded out with the relationship. Tip: stop trying to touch her, I know you want to but if shes resisting your clingy ways don't push her thats never smart. Just talk, try bringing it up like "(insert GF name), I've noticed you seem to be a little preocupied and not in a touchy feely mood all of a sudden, is there something wrong?"I hope this turns up for you, all the best~Ms. Tanya
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Next time you go to kiss her and she sighs or seems disinterested just calmly yet seriously ask her why she never wants to kiss you anymore.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (3 September 2006):
 It sounds like she is bored with you. . . and it would be my guess she has someone waiting in the wings. She just doesn't know how to break it off cleanly with you, so she's acting cool towards you hoping you break it off with her. That's my take on it. I may be way off, but I've seen it happen that way before. Come right out and ask her what the problem is. Good luck.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (3 September 2006):
 I think that you should sit her down and ask her what she really wants. It sounds to me that she is becoming bored with the physical side of your relationship. Maybe you should try and spice things up a bit like bringing in some toys. If it doesnt work maybe you should tell her that you feel unwanted and that you are puttin so much effort into trying to be close to her. Tell her you feel rejected and that no matter how much effort you are putting in you feel that she is not trying. I think you should ask her if she really wants to be with you. Goodluck
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