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writes:My wife and I are going on three years of marriage. We have a healthy sex life, and are happily married. I really want her to give me a blowjob more often, but I don't know how to bring it up to her. I enjoy going down on her and do it fairly often, but when I hint at her going down on me she says that she doesn't like to. We have talked about it a little and she says that she doesn't like to taste. Does anyone have any suggestions for how I can get her to give me more head without making her feel like I am forcing her? I love my wife very much and would never want her to feel uncomfortable about this. Besides, the giver enjoying the act is half the fun anyway. right? Please help with any suggestions.
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (13 October 2007):
 "how I can get her to give me more head without making her feel like I am forcing her?"
Just thought I'd draw you to that quote; read it and assess how that makes you sound.
And you using the fact that you give her oral as an argument as to why she should "return the favour", seems like you are only giving pleasure to her because you have an ulterior motive. Maybe you should adopt a slightly less selfish view.
I'm not trying to be funny, but all women know that men like to receive oral, so you really don't need to tell her. Pressure is one of the biggest turn offs that can be given, so if you're constantly nagging about it, you can guess the effect it will have.
It's best to let the dust settle here, but in the meantime eat fruits like pineapples and mangoes, it makes you taste sweeter. So then once you've let her feel comfortable enough to do it, so won't be ultimately put off once more.
Adopt the view that it's better to receive it spontaneously then having to ask for it; how does a forced apology sound for instance?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 The truth is some women will never like to give BJ's. I sympathize with you because it's not like it is an act the is painful...I assume. Perhaps you shouldn't cum in her mouth. Maybe that would help.
You see, I don't think "most" women enjoy giving oral as men do. Men actually get aroused by arousing the female. I'm sure some women really enjoy arousing the man too, but to a lesser amount. I mean, for example a man would probably rather perform oral sex on his lady even if that was where it stopped. Whereas, a woman would probably prefer to go to sleep then just perform oral for the fun of it.
Also, if you lined up a few really hot women in a bar, most eligible men would probably have no problem performing oral sex on them if given the opportunity. But if you lined up a few hot men, most women would still not perform oral on them, just for the sake of doing it. Women can get and have sex when ever they choose. Men can't. Even with this power, women don't abuse it or use it nearly as much as men would.
My point is this. When a relationship is new and exciting, a woman might enjoy giving sex purely for the fun of it. As time goes by, we have to earn it. And you're correct about the giver enjoying the act. I maintain that there is nothing as satisfying as an enthusiastic sexual partner. It really makes a man feel like a champ.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Got to agree, i personally like enjoy it more when we have both had a shower before hand, and to get us more into it we shower together and it all starts in there.
Take care.xx.
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Im gonna be honest, if shes told you she dosnt like it - it'll be hard to get her to do it. dont bring it up obsessively, you might push her away. Heres one thing i will say and ive never met anyone else to know this fact.
she says she dont like the taste - so CHANGE it. I know it sounds weird but you actually can! heres how, if you drink beer or alcohol before hand its more likely to make her puke because of the taste but if you drink alot of sweet stuff, fruit juices etc and eat alot of fruit and sweet stuff etc you actually change the taste (or slightly at least)
if she still wont settle fo that then you might have to settle for handjobs with lubicants. all the best. faith.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Two things come to mind. One, make sure you've showered beforehand and I don't mean 8 hours ago. I mean fresh. I used to see a guy who would shower at 6:00 AM before going to work, and not understand why I was turned off by him sexually at 10:00 PM at night after he'd been at work for 8 hours, sweating and working etc. Yuk! I didn't want to go near him until he had showered again and washed the day off. In his mind, he was still clean because it's not like he hadn't showered in days but for me, it was a turn off. Two, try some flavored-edible lubricants to help the smell and taste more palatible. Good luck.
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