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writes:25 yrs of marriage need urgent advice.My husband has always been impatient but not in a really bad way. Rare occasions evry 5 yrs he has fallen out with someone he disagreed with or been rude to a friend. He won't socialise very well with people he barely knows - he needs time. He helps in the house with my family and his dementia'd mother in law, xmas everyone comes to us as he is such a tonic and good laugh Our 2 children are now in Uni we ve been havin alovely time but lately hes ignored our neighbours and given them black looks. Today when she said how nice the wall was he said oh in that case i'll paint it black tomorrow and was really rude OUT OF THE BLUE We are house huntin to downsize but i dont want to feel on edge in new company or with my friends any more. Wot shall I do? He can be so loving and a tonic 99% of the time .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Thanks so much for that. Prob is I was so lookin forward to our 'new' life together- holidays new home etc He has been so wonderful since last child left for uni so today i was so disappointed, very angry and hurt I wont be able to look our neighbour in the face. I ve got loads of friends but never go out all the time with them cos i wanted to spend time with H. At the mo I don t want to do anything now just stay in house watchin tv in other room.Ive never typed to a website like this before. He went staright to bed we ve not spokn at all i showed my anger I wont step down it s up to him I normally patient but he can tell TOO MUCH now. Bet if he sees this as a print out he' ll yell 'Well F... Pff then to your mother's!' Wot a choice - Mrs Alzheimer's or Mr Unpredictable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Thanks sugarbuns you almost spot on , except he's 'kicked off' verbally since I ve known him.. i go through the shocked bit but he profusely apologises after a few days My worst fear is that some people see him as odd and I know don t see him as i my family and our closes friends do I wish he would nt be rude sometimes he can be shy to know people then once relaxed no more defencsive but the opposite insults as jokes are not kind if he doesnt like someon he says thngs like who let you out??
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Have you talked to him about his rudeness and if so, what does he say? Does he make excuses, tell you it's all in your head, or does he realize he comes off this way? It could be that he's always lacked good social skills but they've gotten worse with age because as we get older, we worry less about what people think of us, and do more as we please. It may also be his weird sense of humor to be cutting like this. Some people might find it funny. Others won't. Try talking to him first and see if he's aware that his remarks come off sounding rude at times and see if you can help him to hold his tongue, rather than blurting out whatever is on his mind. Good luck.
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (11 October 2007):
 He reminds of my grandfather i never knew and would rather forget (no offence). I suggest marriage counselling. this isnt a problem you can solve over time just from a little answer over a website. this problem will slowly get worse if you dont get help so get into marriage counselling for your marriages sake!!! yours faithully, Faith.
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