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writes:I have been seeing someone for 7 months now and before this we were good friends i have known him for almost 3 years as we lived next door to each other and we get along most of the time. The other night he said he loved me but that he isnt in love with me. Could someone explain to me the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone? Reply to this Question
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (3 May 2007):
 What the guy was saying is that he loves you as a friend and that he doesn't love you as a girlfriend. But sometimes friendships can blossom into a relationship. Just be careful and patient, ok? And don't be pushy...guys don't like that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): Guys have many different sayings that we women dont know what they mean be them! Like when you are 'seeing each other'. By saying that he loves you but not in love with you means that he loves who you are. he loves your personality and he loves spending time with you. However, being commited to someone is more of a big deal for guys and saying that he is in love with you is a big step for him. By saying this he could mean that he can and will fall in love with you it just hasnt happened yet. he may not want to rush things which in this case means he is serious about your relationship! Guys who say 'I love you' too soon dont mean it. Yours is showing you that he truely cares about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): It sounds like he means you are important to him, he has deep affection for you, he cares about you and you are a good companion but you don't float his boat, ie he's not passionately attracted to you or, rather bluntly, he doesn't want you, since perhaps he feels he has you.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 May 2007):
 When a lot of marriages or relationships break up, one partner often says that they love the other but that they're not "in love" with them any more. What this means is that they like and respect the person they are, they are fond of them, as often they have a history and even children together but they are not "in love" with them, meaning they don't feel that passion or chemistry any more, the other partner doesn't excite them or give them butterflies any more, that sadly has sadly died off.
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