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*-gurl704
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about 10months now,when I met him I was a virgin, I held out in our relationship for about 5 months Before we had sex. In the beginning the relationship was going great we got along and spent time together almost everyday, but now he never wants to be around me and the only time he calls is to ask me to come over and have sex. and when we are done he is ready to leave to go chill with his friends. He also doesn't have a car or job so he is always asking me for money for food or asking me to drive him where he needs to go and never gives me gas money. He already has 2 kids I have none I have a good job and trying to go places with my life. A lot times I think he is just using me what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): Yes he is using you and in your heart you know it. If a man cares for you, he will show it by the things he does for you and the way he treats you. A man can not reasonably say "I love you, but I don't want to take care of you" or "I love you, but I don't want to spend time with you".
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reader, d-gurl704 +, writes (12 February 2007):
d-gurl704 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you everyone for your responses....I kinda of already knew you all would say he was using me in which I know yall are 100% correct....you know sometimes you know something you just wanna hear other peoples view on it. I mean I always thought he was using me, but when confronted he would get sooo mad and put on this big show even get emotional and tear up as if I hurt him for saying such a thing. But just so you all know I have gottin rid of him and I am single again :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Whoa, girl. He is SO using you. And you are, if I may, the ULTIMATE booty call. He calls you up for sex, money, food and rides... with this one, I suggest you ream him out first and then dump his sorry butt. He deserves to get yelled at, and I think you need to take back your power in this relationship.
Screw him. It's great that you're going places in your life... he is only going to hold you back from the greatness you can achieve.
xxIndia
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Sorry but it does seem like he is using you. You already know it too, all the signs are there. Its unfortunate that you lost your virginity with such a jerk. But the best thing you can do now is dump him and find someone who truly deserves you and someone who can treat you right and make you feel appreciated. Don't stay with this guy because he is using you and hurting you. Get on with your life and I hope you excel in everthing you do, don't let this poor excuse of a boyfriend prevent you from getting what you want out of life. Dump him.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (9 February 2007):
 I don't think you have to be a brain surgeon to figure this one out. . . and I think you already have.
Keep trying to go places with your life and leave the freeloader behind.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): You're right, he is using you and you don't need him in your life. He's using you for sex, money and as his own taxi driver. Get rid of him before it gets even worse.
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